(Closed) FILs Separating 6 Months Before our Wedding- RANT

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

but the timing is nothing short of suspect

so you think your Future Mother-In-Law is prepared to get divorced for attention?

sometimes it take a lot for a person to finally hit the “i want a divorce” stage and walk away from a marriage – sounds like they have finally hit theirs and its been building for a while

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Are you saying that they are officially separating now because they want attention? Really?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OP, take a deep breath.  People don’t separate from decades-long marriages for attention.  I know this may affect your wedding planning adversely, but showing grace under pressure will only endear you to your Fiance.  How is he taking the news?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

This post does sound a little silly. Yes she may have been preparing for divorce. I think when you’re in a relationship for a long time, you might be thinking about something like this for awhile. Also I think it’s really common to break up and get back together. Leaving after a long time is very scary.  

More than likely their divorce will not be final by September. Prepare yourself for that.

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee

You can want a  divorce even plan for it, but that doesnt mean it hurts a lot less. She has put time and money into her husband and for it not to work can be hurtful. She is probably having a lot of emotions including anxiety, sadness, feeling of loss, feeling of wasted time, excitement, depressed, overwhelmed etc. 

As an aside her comments about the house doesnt sound like she wants to be the center of attention, but that she was having trouble facing the truth of her own situation and future.

I dont think the timing has one iota to do with your wedding plans.

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