(Closed) FILs trying to ruin rehearsal dinner!

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hey Date Twin! Honestly, I think you’d have a hard time covering the cost of a dinner for 50 ppl for $1,000.00 (although if theres no booze maybe). How close are you with FMIL? Do you talk to her on your own? I would suggest giving her a call and thanking her for her offer to pay, maybe even let her know that the soda shop cost would be and if its more than the $500 she’s offered, let her know her $ is going to wedding guests and you will be picking up the remainder of the check.

Post # 4
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry for not responding. I just had no idea what advice to give. I didn’t even realize we’re date twins until seeing the second poster. I’ll be thinking about you. Don’t Future In-Laws just suck sometimes?

Post # 5
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This is why when my Future In-Laws said they would pay for our Rehearsal Dinner I just thanked them and didn’t hold my breath. In the end they did not pay and barely even showed up. I would say if you have the finances to pay for the Rehearsal Dinner then just thank your in laws for their gesture, but you will not be uninviting people so you and your Fiance will pay for it yourself. If this isn’t possible, I would suggest paying for the additional guests if that was okay with your Future Mother-In-Law and fits within your budget. I’m sorry this happened to you. Good luck!

Post # 6
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Whats the difference between how much they want to pay and the actual cost of the Rehearsal dinner? People’s financial situation can change so if they have decided to only pay for the wedding party just pay the difference if you can afford to. Its still nice of them to pay for that and its still more than some in-laws pay for

Post # 7
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2863 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

When people open up their pocket books then they can open their mouths and have some control. If you want to be in control of the dinner then politely decline their offer and pay on your own. If he is worried about hurting his parent’s feelings then come up with something the money could go to that they could feel/be in charge of. 

Post # 8
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

What if you took them up on their offer and paid for everyone else on your own?

Post # 10
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d have him talk to them about your plans to use the amount they offered to cover dinner for everyone and he should explain to them that it’s important to both of you that all 50 people be invited. If they still don’t go for it, then  just tell them “thanks, but no thanks” and do the Rehearsal Dinner you can afford yourself.

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