(Closed) FILS Upset About Destination Wedding (long vent, sorry!)

posted 12 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 17
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2546 posts
Sugar bee

I totaly agree with everyone that it’s your wedding and you should do what makes you happy. And you should have the wedding wherever you two want because it’s your day. However,I don’t think its fair to say that his family can afford to go just because they had a family reunion two years ago. A lot of people are going through tough financial times right now, espcially everything with everything that has happened the last few years. And it’s great that college friends and friends you didn’t think could make it are going, but not everyone has that luxury. An exotic vacation sounds amazing right now, but not something I and many others could do no matter who was getting married 🙁

Post # 18
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My OWN mom is the one who is unhappy about our destination wedding–and we’re only going from Chicago to Hilton Head Island, SC.  I figured since it’s not THAT far, airfare wouldn’t be so bad.  But my mom was upset because some of her family that lives locally can’t afford the airfare.  I understand her point of view, but there’s no guarantee that if I had the wedding locally that they would attend.  

Truthfully, I think a destination wedding works like a charm to weed out those B-list guests who mom and dad make you invite…

Then again, I’m not a traditional bride.  I am inviting about 70 people and will be perfectly happy if 25 attend or 50 attend.  I really don’t care as long as my family and two best friends are there.

Post # 19
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1373 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

From what you’re saying they’re 1) not close to him and 2) want you to have the wedding on their terms.

I know you want to make everyone happy, but this is a pretty clear “screw ’em, do what you want” situation.  They’re the ones acting entitled here, not you.

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