Post # 1
ok… so … I’m not really close to my finace’s sister, neither is he and we have not asked her to be in the wedding. Is this bad?? She doesn’t really care much or even ask about the wedding and also doesn’t talk much to either of us. I just feel bad because my brother and brother in law are both in the wedding. ughh help!
Post # 3
As long as she isn’t offended that the brothers are in the wedding I think it’s fine. I opted not to have my future sister in law as a bridesmaid and everything is okay. If you aren’t close I wouldn’t think she would feel entitled to be in the wedding. That’s just my opinion.
Post # 4
@blingbride623: I think you should choose who you want, not based on family, etc. Its your choice and you shouldn’t feel obligated to put anyone in your party you don’t feel close to.
Post # 5
No I don’t think you should feel bad especially since you all aren’t close..
Post # 6
I put my FI’s sister in my bridal party. Same situation as you, except no brothers…. it didn’t hurt me to include her.
Post # 7
If you aren’t close to her, don’t have her be a bridesmaid. It’s not wrong or weird, nor are you required to have her as one. Being a guest is honor enough for many people. Plus, your bridesmaids (and his groomsmen) should only be those nearest and dearest to you, not random folks chosen out of obligation.
Post # 8
i have the same relationship, im not close with her and neither is he. i asked to be nice and thought it was the right thing to do. i know his mother was touched by it. but it turned out to be the WORST decision ever. the other girls felt uncomfortable around her, she kept telling people she felt left out and not apart of things (which is natural since the other girls were my sisters and a life long family friend- like a sister) and her complaining caused tension between me and his family as they automatically took her side. she would not attend any bridal party get togethers and didnt help in the planning in any way. the girls then began to dread any wedding talk, dress shopping, planning ect because she was bringing the group down. she finally dropped out i replaced her with a good friend of mine who i had always wanted to be apart of the day and the girls are now happy, excited and having fun planning. i lost a bit of money in personalized gifts i had bought and also paid for half of the new bridesmaid’s dress since she was added only a week before dresses needed to be ordered.
so a lesson was learned for sure!! dont feel bad, she prob would feel strange being included anyways
Post # 9
My Future Sister-In-Law isn’t all that interested in us getting married either, and at first I was planning on having her in the Wedding Party, but ultimately decided against it. I want my Wedding Party to be our closest and most supportive friends/family, not people we’re including so they’ll feel better, ya know? The cincher for her was when she told us, “Why don’t you just go to the courthouse and get it over with?”…After that I knew my answer about whether or not I wanted her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
You’e not required to have anyone in your Wedding Party that you’re not comfortable with.
Post # 10
You aren’t required to include her, but it would be a nice gesture. My FI’s sister lives across the country and I’ve only met her once, but I asked her to be a bridesmaid. I figure that it’ll be a way to get to know her better, as she’s about to be my sister-in-law, and 10+ years later, after we’ve celebrated holidays and family events together and know each other better, it’ll be nice to look back at the pictures and see her there.