(Closed) Final alternations done.. one problem :/

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What should I do?
    take it out : (7 votes)
    21 %
    leave it : (27 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 3
    8701 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Can you just diet a bit and lose 5-10 lbs? That seems fairly easy to me with or without a busy schedule. Or, what about a corset back?

    Post # 5
    2553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @BookwormBride2Be:  for me, there was a lot of bloating issues. Are you eating healthy? If anything, drink tons of water and cut out salt. That will help some even if you dont lose any “fat.” I had serious boob spillage/boob muffin top along with back boobs. Losing water weight along with “wedding week stress” really really helped!

    Post # 6
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I agree with previous posters. If you eat healthy and drink plenty of water, you will lose water weight and that would make a difference! 

    Post # 8
    3260 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    What about getting a lace shawl or half-length cardigan thingy (I’m a dude; I don’t know what all these things are called) or something like that, and just give it to your MOH, so if you feel uncomfortable, you can put it on, and if you feel confident, leave it off.

    Also, what about some of the techniques that women use to make sure your breasts stay in the exact right position – double sided tape or whatever?  Are those things real or rumours created to confuse and befuddle men? Obviously not a bra, but are there ways to keep your back in a position where you’re happy with how it looks?  I don’t know if that’s remotely possible, just brainstorming.

    Finally, and this is my official opinion as a heterosexual man, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with how your back looks in the dress.  Looks like it fits; no muffin top, no rolls.  Just looks like you’re wearing a lovely dress that fits you and suits your shape.

    Post # 9
    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Honestly I don’t think that you can lose enough weight in just a month to make a huge difference in how your back looks. I think most of us have some pudge on our back, which is why so many of us have problems with back fat. Even thin ladies often have back fat. It’s just a flabby area on many of us. I don’t see anything in your photos that makes me think it really looks that bad, to the point that other people will notice something is wrong, but if it bothers you, then I would say that you have several options:

    1. Get some kind of shawl or wrap to cover your back

    2. Wear a thick, poofy veil that will obsure your back 

    3. Alter your dress to add some kind of lace over the open area of the back

    4. See if wearing different support garments might make a difference. I noticed that sometimes tight strapless bras and such would push my skin/flab around in ways that caused unflattering bulges. Maybe you can find a support garment that avoids causing bulging/muffin top style problems. 

    Post # 10
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I second PPs idea of adding a corset-style back, instead of a zipper/buttons. That will allow you to keep the curved silhouette of the dress (might even make you look even slimmer), and it’ll solve the back of the dress issue as well. The only thing is, it might not be an inexpensive alteration. It would look very pretty though! 

    Post # 11
    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Duncan:  I loved that reply. Ahhh these lady myths and legends. Actually your knowledge probably rivals mine. For the record though, I think you mean a bolero.



    @BookwormBride2Be:  I know this back thing bothers you but honestly I agree with Duncan; it looks good on you. I don’t think your back looks bad at all.

    Post # 12
    3260 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Flanders:  YES!  A Bolero!  Every time someone says it, I think of a bola, so I can’t lock it in my brain.

    Post # 13
    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    First I think your back itself looks fine. What I see is the problem is the really tight part at the waist, you can see it pulling the zipper open, theres buttons only on one side but the two sides of the fabric at the zipper are pulled, and the pulling/tightness in this area is creating a line at the waist To look like a seam. I can suggest a few things:

    – put loops to go over the buttons to close the zipper fabric over rather than the fake buttons which do nothing and relying on the zipper. 

    – add a plain ribbon, about 4 inches wide at the waist to define the waist and disguise the crease -it’ll also improve the curved waist illusion. 

    – undergarment shapewear, especially for giving a tiny waist. That will give you less body under the waist and thus smooth out the problem area. 

    – eat healthy to stop the bloating. Perhaps some exercise like walking too, you can thus still ‘work’ eg call on the pHone, 



    Post # 14
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @OzGirl:  I think this is good advice. I’ve looked at your photos a few times now and can’t really tell what the problem is with your back – I can’t see one! The only issue is that the zip is showing when it should be hidden by the buttons.

    To me, the balance of the dress looks a bit off in the first picture – it seems to be a smidge lower at the front than the back. Does that make sense? I just want to tug the dress down a little at the front so it balances. It might be because of the podium you’re standing on though and how the train falls – so the photo rather than the dress.

    I think you need to ask the seamstress to alter the dress for you to make the buttons look better.

    Let’s face it – it’s easier to solve these problems with dress alterations rather than weight loss. Even if you would like to lose weight, you must realise you look fine as you are and your husband-to-be thinks you’re gorgeous! You just need to feel gorgeous and I don’t think the dress not fitting properly is helping. Work with your seamstress, try to eat healthily (because it’ll make you feel better more than anything else), and you will feel beautiful on your wedding day! 🙂

    For what it’s worth, if you were very focused on weight loss, you could lose around 7 lb without stressing yourself out too much – your wedding is in July and you can lose around 1 lb a week until then without having to make any drastic changes to your diet or lifestyle.

    But, if I were you, I’d focus on getting the dress to fit your body, not your body to fit the dress. It just needs a bit of tweaking but it’ll look great on the day.

    Post # 15
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I do think it looks too tight in the back.  I’d be tempted to let it out a little.  Do you want the stress of trying to lose 10 pounds?  What if you don’t end up doing it?   I know for me I’ve actually gained some just from eating out due to lack of time, and stress eating and not having as much time to do workouts. 

    You could try shapewear – buy some and go back and try on with the dress.  It may be enough.  But make sure you’re still comfortable because you don’t want to be super uncomfortable all day in your dress/shapewear.


    Post # 16
    504 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    try some high top Spanx

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