Final fitting – etiquette

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I am a sending them a Bouquet as well as a Gift certificate for a coffee shop they love…

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I say no – it was a buiseness transaction. She did not do it for free and presumably you know nothing about her tastes (does she even like macaroons? is she allergic to flowers?). If you are happy, give her a good tip and write a nice review.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I work at a bridal shop and seriously… NO ONE would be offended if you brought macarons! Or cupcakes or $2 cookies, or anything sweet. 

If you feel inspired to bring something nice to the seamstress, please do it. Seamstresses work very hard and you would be surprised at how poorly many brides treat them… 

I would bring something small (if you want) and write a review with her name in it. A good review is worth more than a tip. Especially if you’re on Yelp. You can even copy and paste the review on multiple review sites. 

Yes, it is a business transaction but do not let other people convince you not to be kind. This is a happy time in your life and there’s nothing more refreshing to a wedding industry worker than to see a bride who is actually happy! Share the love, be kind, and send them photos after the wedding, especially if you have a before and after alterations shot!

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Honestly, what is wrong with showing a little extra gratitude even if it is a business transaction?  As far as I know, no one has ever died from being thanked too much.  It’s the thought that counts.  If she doesn’t like macarons, she’ll share them with others.  If she’s allergic to flowers, she’ll give them to her neighbor.  The odds seem very heavily in the OP’s favor that the seamstress won’t say “How dare that bitch thank me in appreciation for my work!  And with cookies I don’t even like no less!”

Thank away!  It’s a nice gesture and people like knowing they are appreciated.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

You’re already paying her so optional extras are entirely up to you. She will be thrilled with any or all of those things. 

Post # 9
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292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Yes I will be giving it to her after the wedding… She works in a small shop and has done so much for me when it came to making me stress less… She was always a ray of sunshine and I left there each and every time with a smile feeling like I left family… Whether she likes what you are giving her or not I’m sure She/They will be super ecstatic to have been thought of ion that way!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

frillsandthrills :  I thought so too. Turns out some people are diabetic and do not appreciate receiving sweet stuff.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

prip02 :  probably a bit late, but in the UK cash tips aren’t always appropriate, and this would be one example, as it might be seen insulting. So, we bought a Liberty of London print pin-cushion for my seamstress, and a bottle of wine, and also gave her a thank you card. We also wrote her reviews. 

I think macaroons would be lovely, as they can also be shared with other staff members which is nice. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

prip02 :  Wait….this is a thing? I honestly think just a nice tip would be good enough. I wouldn’t call macaroons and flowers “ettiquette”, I would say it’s unnecessary and optional. Don’t get me wrong, the extra gesture is sweet, but it seems a little over the top to me unless she is a close family friend of yours.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

My seamstress was an absolute delight to work with. She charged half of what I was expecting to pay and she even put some extra work in to save me a trip out to see her. I gave her an extra 25% of her fee and she was very grateful. 

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