- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
So for those of you who don’t know whats going on – http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hate-to-post-this
Okay, so I’ve been gone for about a week. Hubs was in our Trinity ward for 3 days. I went back to work and went to therapy sessions with him. Therapist concluded that he’s severely depressed and the controlling factor is a part of that. He was seen for 3 hours a day for the duration of his time and has been continuing it.
I am still not in the house but we have been having ‘date night’ for the past couple of days. All in all, we both have issues. I haven’t been dealing with mine, nor has he. However, I am willing to make this work with him. Having him break down and be honest with me about all he’s dealing with has make me love him more. He feels like he’s not attractive enough for me and not good enough for me at all. His self worth is so low. The therapist said it best – “you can’t fix him. he has to want it for himself. what you CAN do is to be there when he needs you and give him the reassurance that he needs.” she also said not to coddle him either. “if he begins to show the controlling behavior again, back off.” its basically a one day at a time thing. So for now, still out of the house but hopefully we can work my way back in. Thanks for the support 🙂