- 4 years ago
Happy happy, joy joy !
After much calculating and re-calculating for our budget (~6K), we decided this past November to postpone our wedding (wedding was supposed to be on January 10th, 2015). Many factors influenced this decision : first, FI was working full-time when we got engaged ; he went back to college this September and our budget drastically changed. A wedding 12 months down the road appeared more like a challenge, because I was, realistically, the only one able to finance it, and ”able” is quite an exaggeration as I am myself a student and have debts to pay off as well. I also don’t know if I’ll get a job in September 2014. What if I don’t ? How will we afford to pay all the vendors 4 months before our wedding if we’re both unemployed ? It was a huge stress for me. Also, I loved the idea of a winter wedding because of the beautiful landscapes and romantic pictures it would have given us. But I know our families didn’t think it was a great idea, especially because of driving conditions if there ever is a snowstorm (our families live in 2 cities, they are 3 hours apart). The date didn’t allow us to have a mini-moon or honeymoon either, as FI would begin his trimester the Monday after.
So, we finally came to a solution. Going back to our first idea, which was an August 2015 wedding to give us more time to save up money ; and if we get married on Aug. 22 or 29, that gives us at least a week to have our honeymoon before FI begins his trimester. We also changed our venue. I didn’t like the fact the one we had visited twice never called us back for the (paying) food tasting last week. They kept adding extra fees to anything, and I didn’t feel I could afford it even though it was one of the least expensive places in our area.
The venue we chose is actually the very first one we’ve visited, and had both fallen in love with. There’s a ”chapel” to get married on site (civil ceremony in our case).
Seems like my dad will walk me down an ”aisle” (and stairs) after all !
There’s a (permanent) marquee under which the reception takes place. Loooove the chandeliers <3
It’s surrounded by a river and a forest. The vegetables are cultivated on site (bio garden). There’s no neighbors a few miles around.
Sooooooooo … it seems that FI and I have FINALLY come to a decision, one that enables us to save our part of the budget (I’ll be paying 85% of it, but right now I’m the only one with a decent income, and hopefully by the time we get married I’d be working full time for almost a year, while he will be finishing his bachelor’s degree). I am totally fine with this scenario ! Basically, all FI has to pay are his clothes, his shoes, his wedding dinner, his accessories, and 1 out of the 2 hotel nights. If he can afford to pay more he will, but I didn’t want to put too much pressure over his shoulders.
Bees, now I can’t wait to get married !