- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So today is May 23. Our wedding is July 17. Less than two months away.
FI’s PAL who has a graphic/recording studio/we design and print tees shirts/whatever shop volunteered to gift us our invitations. I know he’s flighty and irresponsible so I was like oooohhh ok sure…so back in March I was like, hey, we’re going to need those invites pretty soon, Fiance, if you want to get that started. We’ve got everything else lined up, just waiting on #s for final counts-DW Out of Town bags, restaurant #, etc. Which we can’t have until the rsvps come in…from you know, the INVITES
For a month Fiance called/emailed/texted pal about what we were looking for. He got the typical..”Yeah yeah,we’ll get on it..”
Nothing in April. Meanwhile I’m bookmarking tons of invite designs on my laptop because I just KNOW.
I start to get antsy. They have to make them, ship them, and we have to mail them. Fiance doesn’t see the rush. IT’S A DESTINATION WEDDING and even though we sent Save-The-Date Cards..they need to go out!!
Beginning of March/last week of April Fiance calls pal in front of me. He tells Fiance to have me send the ideas I want. So, I send him something I mocked up on a website. With the colors turquoise, coral, grey and white. He send back navy, maroon, and black. SIGH.
For a week we go back and forth. I send him the EXACT thing I want. An event poster type of invitation. I send him google links. My mock up. Everything.I made it, he just needs to print it off at this point.
**Oh, I should add, in between this, he send Fiance a “humerous” design of a guy’s private party and the words “fuck the wedding” and says this is what we came up with**
Every single day for the last week and a half Fiance has texted him. Every single day he says he will get on it, he doesn’t understand why we don’t have it. (We figure out he is having someone else in the shop work on it) Two weeks ago his dad had a heart attack. We were understanding, of course…the next Monday pal calls and says they will be in my email the following day. This goes on every day.
Last Friday Fiance called and they said we’d have it that night. The weekend went by. Monday they said Monday night. Tuesday Fiance called and they said 1 o clock. Then 5 o clock. Then that evening. Fiance came in this morning from work and I asked if he got them last night while I was asleep. He said NOPE. We agreed yesterday that if we didn’t have them last night we were going to order online.
This has caused super arguments with Fiance and I. I understand that this guy is his friend from when they were little. He just isn’t a good “friend”. He hated me on sight, he trashes his girlfriend, got drunk when we stayed with them for a weekend and fought with her in front of us, broke furniture, he isn’t coming to our wedding, he always lets Fiance down. I don’t understand the friendship. But I never say anything, he was waaay before I came along. He has also accused Fiance of not being fun anymore because we moved to MS and he’s doing the “Dad and family thing”. Yeah but he’s had two kids with his Girlfriend that he hates and always says she ruined his life with the kids. WOW.
Today is Wednesday. The pal is going out of town this weekend and was bragging to Fiance about it when he was buying luggage the other day. So today and tomorrow are really the only days they would have to work on it.
At this point, ok, weeks ago, I decided I was done with this. Fiance would get so defensive, saying “They will do it!! Just give them time!!” Finally the other day I was like, “LOOK. This is MY wedding. Not only are they not even doing it, the ones they sent in the beginning were wrong!! And then with the dick jokes!! They aren’t taking this seriously and they’re doing it on purpose and you just won’t see it!!” Whatever.
Anyone else have a friendor horror story? I ask as I’m currently designing my own invitations for my wedding 50 something days away. GAHHHHHHHHHH