(Closed) Finally, FMIL and FFIL’s reaction to our plans to wed

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It sounds like the parents are the ones with a problem not you. Their perception of marriage is solely based upon their own experiences of it being miserable. It sounds like a lot of their perceptions of how people are are just skewed in general. I think the best thing you could have done for yourself was realize that this was never going to change because it won’t. Your poor SO….since you have such wonderful parents hopefully they can take him on as a son and show him a positive parent child relationship. 

Post # 4
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your FH is really lucky to have such a supportive FW. I think it’s a good thing to have this out in the open, although its difficult, it’s better than putting up with a destructive relationship for years and not really understanding why!

Post # 5
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Oh my gosh, I remember earlier posts. I’m so, so sorry you two are going through this. Hopefully, seeing a healthy couple in your parents will help with the hurt inflicted by his dysfunctional ones. 🙁

Post # 6
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you are amazing for being so wonderful.  I don’t know that I would ever have anything positive to say about his family and it seems to me like you have tried over and over again.  You are obviously a wonderful person and I hate that they cannot see that.  Best of luck!

Post # 7
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m very relieved to hear that your SO is following through on what he told his parents would happen if they chose to not accept your relationship. I think it’s pretty clear that they would not like any woman he chose to marry. Personally, I would not wait to have him move in – if the two of you are married and (god forbid) his cancer came back, it’s not like he would move back in with his parents, you’d be a family and you’d figure it out – is there any way you guys could go ahead and do that so he isn’t stuck in such a toxic environment? All the stress can’t be helping his illness.

Post # 8
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t understand why he HAS to live with them? Couldn’t you help him move out? Or is there some other reason he is there ?

Post # 9
716 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@imalittlebirdie:  Ditto this. If he’s a grown adult go help him pack up and get out of there. No reason he HAS to stay unless his medical treatment is under their insurance or something then you do have to tread lightly I guess….

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