- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
So I’ve been in the process of applying for a foster care license for 13 months. Bf and I actually started dating not long after I submitted my application. It’s just been going so long, it’s hard to believe they are finally close to issuing a license lol.
So much incompetence, they’ve lost paperwork multiple times. Sigh, so now that it’s finally happening, I’m having misgivings about placements only because I love my relationship with bf. We are both single and childless, so we can spend all our time together.
He’s known about the fostering since the beginning and been very supportive. He continues to be supportive, but now I’m getting cold feet.
I’ve fostered before and it was the best thing I ever did. I closed my home after he first placement because my brothers family needed a place to stay and there wasn’t room in my house for a placement and my brothers family. I loved being a mom and having the opportunity to help a kid in need and even mentor her very young mother to a certain extent. I kinda feel like I did good too. My attempts to help support the family has led to me still getting updates and I still try to be supportive of my former foster daughter’s mom and she continues to struggle, but tries her best to raise her daughter well.
Anyway, so I know I love fostering, but when I got the call from my case worker this afternoon telling me she’ll be submitting my paperwork to her sup next week, I Hought I’d be filled with joy to have it finally happening. Instead, I’m happy sad. I love my BF and don’t want to spend less time with him :(. But at the same time I feel called to foster and hopefully help another family in need.
Aargh, BF and I are going out tonight and we’ll talk about it. I know is a long shot, but I’d love any tips on parenting while dating, especially from anyone who has also dealt with CPS.
It’s a little complicated with the constant CPS presence in your home and the sometimes extreme behaviors, but it’s still parenting while dating lol.