- 6 years ago
Aaaaaaarg! So last night I FINALLY got a timeline from my boyfriend. I was getting so sick of his complacent wishy washiness on the subject that we fought two nights in a row. It was getting to the point where I was seriously reconsidering continuing with the relationship. June will be our 4 year anniversary. He says he wants to be together for ever then gets all skittish when it comes to actually getting MARRIED. That’s totally unacceptable to me and he knows it.
So I think he finally got it through his thick skull that I will NOT be a perpetual gf and WILL leave him if that’s what he wants to do. Some people might consider that an ultimatum but I consider it NOT being a bloody doormat and letting a man dictate my life out of sheer complacency and laziness. HE is the one that says he wants us to be together forever so if he wants to be with me forever marriage is what is required for that to happen.
So in the end he says that when he took some time to actually THINK about it instead of just give a knee jerk “typical guy reaction” that he can see himself proposing by our 5 year anniversary. So within a year an a half, and I’m cool with that. I just wanted a proper timeline instead of that vague “someday”, “in the future”, “in time” bull sh*t.
So I will never bring it up again for a year and a half while he figures his stuff out. But if he hasn’t proposed by the deadline there will be a serious discussion and possible thrown down.
Having a mental deadline is all well and good but sometimes men need to know that you’re SERIOUS ladies and that you aren’t afraid to take control of your life. Yes I was right up in his face about the issue but in the end HE apologized for being so hard to get along with and being an idiot. I hear so many stories on here about women afraid to rock the boat in the relationship about getting commitment, and how not to scare or put any pressure on their guys (god forbid they ever feel a little uncomfortable *eyeroll*).
Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and what you really want. Show them what a strong woman you are that demands respect. If I HADNTgotten up in his face about it I would NEVER get a timeline! Lol he would have let it slide for EVER!