Post # 1
Omg! He knew my intentions when we started walking toward the store. once we Made it inside without him spontaneously combusting (hahaha) i casually said “let’s go down this way…the clearance jewelry is over here” and then i just turned 90 degrees from the clearance case and TA-DA!!! We were in front of the engagement rings! we started at the cheap end and walked toward the expensive stuff to land in front of the mens rings. The best sales associate ever must have noticed he was new to all this and after seeing his football hoodie said ” here, have some fun and try on the’ super bowl ring’ ” it was gaudy and ridiculous but he tried it on for fun and then I tried on one I really liked (while staying within what i suppose is an ok budget) and another that was small and priced less ( 3/8 round solitaire) it took me 4.5 years to get this far, so Im absolutely thrilled That he’s starting the process! Im so glad hes really starting to seriously think of building our future together! (We are still semi-young so we have a bit of time to do all this) I didn’t want to put any more pressure on him, so after about 10 minutes I said “ok, we looked a bit…time to leave” trying to keep it as less stressful as I can for him. Btw… He knew I wanted a ring for Christmas and said I wouldn’t be getting one this year (2012). :/ sorry for type-os. Im on my phone and Auto correct is driving me crazy!!! Here’s to hope and Christmas 2013!! (lol or v-day 2013, or my birthday 2013 or any other day in 2013 hahahaha)
Post # 3
@WaitingBeee: How did he respond when you tried on rings? Did he say anything? did he ask questions? did he ask anything that would make you think he was interested? The fact that he even went is a step in the right direction. Men do things on their own terms so no matter how often you bring it up he will wait as long as he needs to to feel ready. You want him to feel ready b/c after the Engagement Ring comes more pressure to plan and if he isnt ready to propse he wont be ready to plan.
Post # 4
@WaitingBeee: Your lucky, i still have to drag my guy in and he’s definetly not playing ball…boo!
Post # 5
@jigga143 He was definitly looking at the little price cards for the womens rings. and when he tried on the gaudy mens ring, he checked the tag on it for the price of that too. For all I know, he may of even liked that one! hahaha. I dont really remember if he said anything (he gets real quiet when he’s nervous), we were only in there for about 10 minutes, and me and the sales associate did all the talking. And I was excited, so it was kinda surreal to me, like I was in a different land. (the land of sparkles lol) I do remembering asking him if he wanted diamonds in his band like my Uncles, or a titanium one like my brothers, and I’m such a horrible girlfirend I can’t even remember what he said!!! AHHHH! A while ago I remember him saying that he wanted one nice one for dress-up occassions, and another one to wear for like, every day. After we left the store, he was being funny and said “if I buy your ring, that means you are buying my ring?? Can i get a customized one with my favorite football teams logo on it?” with a nod and a smile, and I was like “sure! if we can find a jewler that doesn’t care about copyright laws!” (i hope he doesn’t really want a football ring hahahahaha) To me it really doesn’t matter who pays for what, our money is mixed for the most part anyway. We have seperate accounts, but we both pay our share, or even if something like paying for grocieries is lop-sided every now and then, we don’t keep tabs on it or anything. And then I told him a little about the customization process, and how it’s not toooo much more expensive than a store bought one. So the trip into the store was just looking around, see what they had, and for him to get familiar with styles and levels of pricing (which we talked about prior to going into the store). And since we went in, I haven’t said one lick of anything about rings or anything, as you said it becomes more pressure to plan and i’m all about NO PRESSURE! (nudges and winks don’t count lol).
@alaric2012 don’t get me wrong, mine didn’t want to go in! it took me a loooong time (YEARS) to get this far. Instead of saying “I want to go look at engagment rings” I would say “do you want to go to the mall with me?” or “can we stop in the jewlery store? I would like to go look at pretty things.” I implied what I wanted without saying the acutal word. I think those words “engagment” and “ring” scare men, even if they are ready to do it. So for years I always refered to a ring as “a little piece of carbon that has been heated and pressurized by the earth over millions of years attached to a metal loop” 🙂 before I would say “ring” or diamond”. 😉 you’ll get there! good luck!
sorry this was long! i’m excited! 😀