(Closed) Finally got his parents to pay, now FI's mad!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Which should we pick? :)
    the DJ : (13 votes)
    59 %
    the honeymoon : (9 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
    8669 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Wow I really don’t blame your Fiance for being upset.

    Post # 4
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    If not, then I agree with your fiancé and am surprised that he didn’t dump you after that sort of behavior.


    Post # 5
    660 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Wow! You’re brave. I can’t say I would have done the same. Others may disagree but I can see why your Fiance is upset. 

    Post # 6
    114 posts
    Blushing bee

    While I understand your feelings, you should have worked with your Fiance to solve this situation.

    Post # 7
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    Goodness…that is something I would never do.  I don’t blame your Fiance for being upset with you for going behind his back.  His parents have no obligation to put in any money to your wedding.  

    Post # 8
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MrsCreeToBe:  I’m pretty sure you’re gonna get a lot of nasty responses, but I’m totally on your side 🙂 If I was in your situation and had the guts to do it, I’d call his family out on it too. 

    It can’t be all bad if your Future Mother-In-Law came back and actually offered to pay for something. If they were as jerkish as they seemed (judging fromy our previous post) they would have gladly continued to contribute nothing.

    In any case, I like the idea of the honeymoon too. 

    Post # 10
    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @MrsCreeToBe:  please tell me you are kidding.. If you aren’t then you need to really take a step back and reread what you wrote. You sound completely ungrateful. Nobody has to pay for your wedding but you and your future husband. I pray that thus was a joke for the sake of your future marriage.

    Post # 11
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    No one’s parents have any obligation to pay for any part of your wedding, honeymoon, or excursions, and if I had dared to say anything along those lines to DH’s parents, I’d expect he would have broken it off with me. What you did was wrong on so many levels, I just don’t know where to begin.


    I tried to work with Fiance though. He knows how I feel about his parents, especially the favoritism. I like them but it’s hurt us a lot over the years.

    How were we going to resolve anything if one of us didn’t take a stand? I know his parents are his territory, but if he’s not willing to speak up then don’t I have to?

    What if we have kids? Are his parents going to favor his sister’s children over ours? Where does it end?

    It ends when you put jealousy aside and stop worrying about what others are getting.

    Post # 12
    8590 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Sorry but I agree with your Fiance. Perhaps his parents are more traditional and feel the bride’s parents should be paying – like they did for his sister.


    Post # 13
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Wow. Entitled much? it’s normal for the parents of the bride to pay but the parents of the groom not to, that’s tradition. They paid for his sister’s wedding because in that case they were the parents of the bride. That isn’t the case with you wedding. They don’t owe you anything. For you to demand that they fork over thousands of dollars so you can throw a party is beyond disrespectful. I wouldn’t marry someone who was that rude to my parents. I’m surprised your fiance didn’t dump you.

    Post # 15
    2539 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @ElbieKay:  Not a troll look howmany post she has.

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    OP… you are BRAVE for posting this. All i have to say is that NOONE is obligated to pay for your wedding. what they did with their daughter is thier business. the way you acted was towards your FIL’s was rude and selfish.

    If anyone talke to my parents like that… i wouldn’t be marrying them.

    Post # 16
    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Yeah, you were totally out of line here. Terrible etiquette. Doesn’t matter if you perceive favoritism or not, you don’t go around demanding money.

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