- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Fair warning this is going to be long. I will not be offended if you skip straight to the pictures!
After doing a lot of research and creeping these boards, like many, I realized diamonds just weren’t right for me. Don’t get me wrong, I do think diamonds are lovely. I don’t have anything against anyone who wears diamonds. I think all e-rings are beautiful because of what they mean to the person wearing it! The fact that people (myself included in the beginning) think they have to get a diamond stone for it to be an e-ring just really bothers me.(just my take on it. I know not everyone is the same and that is perfectly fine! Everyone is different!)
So to the search for a non-diamond e-ring. I loved moissanite after seeing many on here and all over the internet. I love sparkle and bling so I thought it would be perfect. I was nervous about not ever seeing it in person and just couldn’t decide. I also didn’t want my ring to be too traditional and to look like everyone elses. We had also looked at so many different colored stones, and although they were all pretty, nothing seemed right for me. When I found morganite (on here of course) the pale pink color was just so pretty and a perfect fit for my style. When I saw one in person, I felt like I finally found something I absolutely loved! Obviously the price was an awesome perk as well!
Then the doubt about morganite’s hardness started to set in, and I was feeling a lot of pressure from sales people at jewlery stores we had visited. They made comments about how I should go with a diamond because I’m hard on my rings. They made it seem like I was going to ruin it. “It should be the last thing you put on before you leave the house, and the first thing you take off when you get home,” a couple different ones told me. I’m not wearing it for other people outside my house; I’m wearing it for me and I want to look at it all the time! I thought that rule just applied to fake costume jewlery. If a ring has to babied that much that you can’t even wear it what are we spending the money for? Is it poorly made? The hardness/durability of the stone did concern me a little, but these boards helped. Also I remembered an amethyst ring that I’ve had for years. I’ve worn it daily for years and not babied it by any means, and it has held up just fine! (Amethyst is even softer than morganite on the mohs scale.) At the end of the day follow your common sense and remember the people at jewlery stores are employed to sell sell sell and sometimes they want to try to talk you into something that’s not at all what you want!
My ring is from etsy. It’s 8.5mm in 14k rose gold. I feel like we had to search high and low to find a simple solitaire in rose gold with morganite. The stone is bigger than I wanted, but to get it changed to the smaller size I wanted was going to take so long. We might not have even gotten it in time for the wedding. My poor FI , I love him so much for being so understanding and patient through the whole processes and me changing my mind so many times! This is probably why years ago women had no say in their ring lol … It’s so sweet though that he wanted to make sure I was happy and it was going to be something I loved wearing every day. I think it being too big is a “problem” I’m willing to accept haha. Morganite is just so stunning in my opinion, and photos just do not do them justice!
This whole ring thing has been crazy. I started out telling him to just pick a ring because I really didn’t know what I wanted I just knew I wanted to marry him. He insisted I give him some input (then later wanted me to narrow down to what exactly I wanted.) There were times I told him to not even get me a ring because I didn’t need one. I just couldn’t decide. We even talked about going and getting finger tattoos for our wedding and not doing rings at all. lol
The weddingbee is such a blessing! You ladies are so inspirational and helpful!
He proposed in a craft store. He dropped me off because I could spend hours in there easy lol. He said he had a phone call to make and had to run somewhere , that he would meet me in there. When I saw him in the store he said he wanted to show me something he saw that I might like for the wedding. I totally fell for it, I really thought he was getting excited about some crafting for the wedding! lol As I’m walking with him I’m telling him different things I had seen that I wanted to show him too. With the wood letters they sell he had spelled out “will you marry me” and he had the ring (he had just pick it up at the store). It was such a surprise! I knew I was getting a ring and I knew he had been acting weird that week/weekend, but I did not expect it how/when he did it. It was awesome!
(yes, the ring he proposed with is different. He got it from a jewlery store bc he was unsure of ordering from etsy, and he was able to just go get it and not wait any longer to pop the question. We were both tired of waiting I think. In the end the quality of the ring from the store just wasn’t that great. We were going to have to wait about the same amount of time for the jewlery store to fix the ring he proposed with as the one from etsy which was the exact ring I was wanting and was better quality.)