- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders!!
I had been mildly freaking out about this summer fast approaching, because for over a year we have been talking about getting married next summer, after a one-year engagement… meaning we were supposed to be getting engaged very soon and getting started planning the big day. The year-long engagement was important because we would be planning basically a “reverse destination” wedding: we live in Hawaii and would be getting married in Portland, OR, where most of our friends and family are, and it needed to be in the summer months due to the long rainy season.
We’ve gone through a lot of changes so far this year, including him losing his job and starting a business, and the thought of not only planning our wedding in the next year but spending the amount of money it would take (out of our business start up $) to put on a wedding on the mainland from here was making both of us kinda anxious — but neither of us spoke up about it until today!
We finally talked after months of wedding silence and came to a glorious conclusion: We are going to get married here!! When we feel like we can comfortably afford to! We decided we feel ready to be engaged now/asap and are open to having a longer engagement, especially since here we can get married at any time during the year.
I feel so much better. Our wedding is supposed to be about US and our love, our lives together. Our life is here. I can’t wait to share it with everyone on that day! And now, instead of being anxious about the ring needing to come within our original timeline and rushing to plan the wedding/spend all our money, I just feel excited that we’re both on the same page about what we want. Excited to be engaged, excited to get married, but willing to get a few ducks in a row first!
Have any other waiting girls gone through major pre-wedding planning changes like this?? Or finally have a discussion with your SO that makes you realize you’re both totally on the same wavelength, despite driving yourself crazy thinking you couldn’t possibly be?! Haha! 🙂