Finally! Happy yet worried he'll be embarrassed?

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 2
2702 posts
Sugar bee

Sorry to be Debbie downer, but it sounds like he was forced into it. You even had to prompt him to say something! This whole post just makes me cringe for you. It doesn’t sound like he wants to be engaged right now at all. 

Post # 3
9688 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Gorgeous ring!

Honestly, no one really asked about our proposal story or pressed for details. I certainly wouldn’t tell it the way you have here which just makes it sound like you nagged him into a proposal. Just say he proposed spontaneously at home – without all the details about him missing oppertunities and you continually prodding him it just sounds like a nice, at-home proposal which are great.

Post # 4
2419 posts
Buzzing bee

FWIW, I’ve never had anyone ask for our proposal story, and I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone for theirs, either.  

Post # 5
11647 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

tulipbee :  idk, bee. He got you the ring you wanted, which is so pretty. I really don’t think much of this Pinterest /insta proposal fad going on.

Some people aren’t cut out for big surprises and shows and others aren’t cut out for finding the ring their partner wants and others can’t do either but they still love their partner. And that is perfectly fine. He showed his love in other ways, esp by getting you the ring you have wanted for so long! 

I would embrace this as it was: He had the ring, you couldn’t wait. It’s cute. It’s you two. So it’s right. 

Post # 6
182 posts
Blushing bee

tulipbee :  “As I start thinking of what to say when people ask, I realize that I want to make it sound better than it was, because I don’t want them to think less of our relationship.”

A colleague of mine proposed in Verona, on that famous balcony, Romeo and Juliet scene, extremely romantic. Made for a very nice story to tell others. They broke up before the wedding. 

Relationship is not better or stronger just because someone put a lot of thought into creating a beauiful story. 

Post # 7
375 posts
Helper bee

It’s a cute story, imo!

You shouldn’t worry what others think of your relationship and a person who would think less of a relationship because of a simple, genuine proposal is immature. 

Post # 9
6169 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Your ring is beautiful. The elaborate engagement process is overrated and a little ridiculous, imo. Some people are good at that kind of stuff, others are not. It’s sweet that your guy was trying to come up with a great plan but sad that he felt like he had to do all of that just to propose when he should have felt comfortable getting you the ring and asking you to marry him. The point is the marriage. Not the wedding and for damn sure not the proposal.

I don’t agree with PP that it sounds like he was forced to propose to you, but it does sound a bit like you need to reign in your need for control and YOUR concern about what others think.

Congratulations on your engagement. Happy wedding planning!

Post # 10
6169 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

lovinggemstones :  that balcony is so beautiful! I got to see it once years ago.

I do not know why people think a story about a 13 year old and 15 year old that happens over the course of a few days is the epitome of romance, though. It’s so silly to me!

Post # 11
648 posts
Busy bee

I’ve only had one person ask how he did it. And personally I’m really not interested in anyone’s proposal stories, I never ask, I think a lot of people are like that. So I wouldn’t worry! 

Post # 13
8832 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

tulipbee :  What a happy update. Glad to hear it bee.

Post # 14
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

tulipbee :  Congrats hun!


Although it is clear that he was going to propose, just unknowingly when, it seems like the proposal wasn’t as “fancy” as you may have liked because you rushed him a bit. I wouldn’t say you “forced” him because he was going to do it anyway, but I do think he felt rushed.

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