- 1 year ago
- Wedding: City, State
My boyfriend proposed after 3.5 years, 6 months after we chose the ring. I’ve been nagging at him because we had agreed on timelines and he’s late, after talking about it for 18 momths (he also had ring for a month). I’m glad it finally happened and excited to move to the next stage/just enjoy it, but I’m worried one or both of us will be embarrassed about our proposal story, especially as we start sharing with friends and family.
He’s had some pretty great opportunities to propose, including a sunset walk he planned out of the blue, day at aquarium, etc. So I’ve been a little annoyed to be led on for a bit. His parents have asked me twice in front of him in the last month if I got the ring yet, so cat out of the bag long before I said anything while he kept wanting to “surprise” me.
He’s not the most creative guy so we even joked about a few good proposal ideas, and he said “Ah ha, I know how to surprise you!” That was 2 weeks ago. Tonight, I was getting annoyed again since he hasn’t shown any indication of picking a weekend (all of them were filling up with things) so I asked him if I could see the ring. When we had picked it, I specifically had asked him to please ask within the return period, in case there were issues.
I knew the time was up, and I reminded him. We were at home after a dinner out with friends. I didn’t really expect him to show me as we’ve been pretending I don’t know it is in his drawer, but was just prodding him. He kept to his line about it being at his parents’ house (again, we had already talked about how he’d ordered it).
We joked around and I was doing my thing when he suddenly asked for a hug. I was like I just gave you one 5 minutes ago when we were joking around but I gave him another, and I felt the ring box in his back pocket! I was surprised and asked him, “Are you sure you want to do it now??” He said yes and knelt down and held the ring box open, smiling but not saying anything.
“Do you want to say anything to me?” I asked, still surprised and not sure if he was joking. “Will you be mine forever?” he said, and of course I said yes. I apologized for nagging. Are you sure, I kept asking, and I assured him I was super surprised!
He told me the original plan had been to find photos spelling out: will you marry me, each on a separate picture, and then under the guise of having me edit them (I’m obsessed with photography), then ask me, but he didn’t think it would work out well so was thinking of another plan.
I’m worried one or both of us will wish he put more thought into his real proposal, spontaneous as it was! I’m feeling sorry that I did rush him, relieved I’m not waiting on tenderhooks any more, and also a bit disappointed he really hasn’t been working on a proposal (just ideas phase). As I start thinking of what to say when people ask, I realize that I want to make it sound better than it was, because I don’t want them to think less of our relationship. Though that makes me shallow because 3 weeks ago I would have said I don’t care as long as he asked!
Ring pictures 🙂 I love it! It is tight so will have to resize.