Post # 16
You don’t need to have a fancy proposal story. Not many people ask if you don’t offer, and it doesn’t really matter anyway. If it makes you feel better:
My husband was the one that was harassing me to get engaged for almost a year. He would constantly ask me if I was going to marry him and I would say “yes, but we have to wait until X amount of time”.
Then after that time had passed we were in Mexico in a beautiful resort with my family with every opportunity to do a fancy proposal, but instead – one night after going out drinking (a lot) with my sisters we get back to our hotel room and he asks me again, “you’re going to marry me right?” I was very drunk and for a change I said “Yep, but you’re going to have to ask me first!” so he stumbled over to the closet and pulled out a ring. I honestly barely even remember it, but I think it’s kinda funny. He still treats me like gold and we’re incredibly happy.
Also, my dad proposed to my mom by handing her a ring while driving. They’ve been married 40+ years and are still obsessed with one another.
Post # 17
There’s nothing wrong with your story – he got down on his knee at home and (on your cue lol) asked you to marry him..
My boyfriend proposed on a Monday morning in the kitchen (there’s a little more to it but that’s it in essence..)
Own it and congrats.
God love him – he just couldn’t get his head around anything else.. that’s fine. There’s too much pressure for the picture perfect moment – but ultimately it means nothing, and very rarely actually happens
ETA: beaut ring by the way!!
Post # 18
The focus on a social media worthy proposal is a new thing and it’s inane. I haven’t done any study but I’d be willing to believe that the most low key proposals are the ones where the marriage lasts longest.
Post # 19
“We had a lovely evening with some friends. When we got home he got on one knee and askeds” that’s the extend that people actually want to know. It’s just a polite question that you at suppose to ask as is the “show me the ring” (just read the other thread). Same is after a pregnancy announcement asking if they know the sex. Your story is sweet and real.
Post # 20
mrsaime : Exactly this. Cringe.
Post # 21
Thanks everyone for also sharing your stories, I do think it helps dispell some of these unrealistic expectations.
@winterwarrior I know it could have turned out either way, depending on the couple! Thankfully Fiance doesn’t let many things bother him, including when I mess up or am impatient. 🙂 He’s very patient!
Post # 22
Gorgeous ring. Congratulations!
Post # 23
I think it doesn’t truly matter the specifics or how he proposed. Mt husband bought me the ring when I asked him to go into a jewelry store.. I ended up liking one and he bought it then and there and put it on my finger. As in, we walked into a jewelry stire without plans of getting engaged that day and left the store engaged….I found a better ring a couple days later, we exchanged it and my husband bought mine and his wedding band immediately too. We married 3 months and 9days later (engaged june 18, married sept 27… he was extremely involved in the planning and we made all the invitations, centerpieces, flowers and decorations ourselves by hand at our home)
He then proposed again to me a few days later when I was naked, anout to shower and had makeup from the day before still on me and my curly hair looked like a bird nest. He kneeled down and kissed my hand, and held it and asked me if I would be his wife and I said yes of course….
We just celebrated our 5 year anniversary in September and we are happy and love each other… our relationship has gone through so much and here we are standing stronger than ever TOGETHER. Dont worry too much about ur proposal story
Post # 24
I was definitely asked my proposal story a few times. FH’s proposal was quite nice, but not without hiccups. For instance, he was hoping to have the ring box out and open when I turned around, but he was still trying to yank it out of his coat pocket. We skip that part. Instead, we just tell the overview and skip the details.
After a nice dinner out with friends, you were teasing each other about rings and proposals (good-naturedly, of course) when he asked you for (another!) hug. You obliged, even though his asking seemed kind of silly, and you felt the box! You could hardly believe it. You definitely weren’t expecting it right then, even though you’d been teasing him about timing a moment before. He grinned – maybe that had been his plan all along? He got down on one knee, took a deep breath (proposing is nerve-wracking, after all), and asked if you’d be his forever. Of course, you said YES!
There, see? It’s plenty cute! It’s all in the phrasing.