Post # 1
I just wanted to say hi to everyone. I have been on this site before but I finally decided to join because you ladies seem so nice on here. Just got engaged a few months ago. Wedding planning so far is not quite what I expected. The biggest issue I have so far is people (mostly his family members) being inconsiderate. The person who is annoying me the most is his sister. She keeps saying why am I trying to plan a wedding that is almost two years away. She makes fun of the fact that I am all into wedding planning. I think its very inconsiderate and rude of her to do that. I cant really say anything to him because its his sister but she just makes me furious sometimes.
My family understands because they know I like to plan ahead. I think its better to talk to vendors and get an idea of how much money you will need so you have time to save up. I am in law school and will be finishing up next year. He is the only one working so our families will help us a lot. I think its important to know how much we will be spending because our funds are not limitless.
Is it so wrong for me to be planning now (in January of 2011) if my wedding isnt until November of 2012? Like I said, I am a very organized person who likes to plan ahead. I hate stress and I dont want to have to worry about passing my bar exam in July of 2012 and planning a wedding at the same time. It would just be too much.
Sigh! I could go on and on and on. Please help! Lol.
Post # 3
First of all, welcome!!
I’ve been planning for my June 2012 wedding since August! So I’m gonna tell you that it’s never too early. Other ladies here will tell you that is, because you may change your mind on things as time goes. Which is totally valid. It really depends on YOU. Are you the type to change your mind a lot?? If so, you might want to take this time to gather inspiration and not make any real decisions until about a year out.
As far as naysayers — I usually just don’t talk wedding around those who think I’m planning too early. I come here instead!! 🙂
Post # 4
Everyone is different. So plan away. When she plans her wedding she can do it whenver she likes, and that is all you have to say. I had less than a year, cause our engagement is only 10 months before our date, and I didn’t start planning immediatly, and honestly if I had 2 years it would be the same. I am a fast mover, and like simple plans, not better, not worse, just my style, and maybe she just needs to understand everyone is different. Plus, you will get the perfect venue, DJ, stylist, etc…. cause you will have the date picked so early! Great job!
Post # 5
I think since you like to plan ahead-I say go for it-Just chat with us instead of your FI’s sister!! If you know what you like, it is great to start earlier than later. It allows you to DIY if you are that type of person. If you have storage space (or family does) it allows you to find deals on things you’ll need/want. 🙂
Post # 6
If it makes you feel better, I started planning in August of 2010, I didn’t want it to be stressfull!
Post # 8
I started “researching” last August (2010) for my Feb 2012 wedding. 🙂
Just don’t talk wedding around her – who cares what she has to say about it anyway? She sounds immature. You learn who you can really talk about this stuff with and who is going to think you’re nuts.
Post # 9
Plan on planner!!! People had all sorts of fun at my expense ( since 2009) but you are absolutely right that this is a great time to feel out pricing from vendors with no pressure. Here’s my caution: try not to talk weddings too much with everyone because they’ll get burned out hearing about it. The Hive is a great place to go when you want to talk wedding stuff though, so welcome! Enjoy planning and saving up!
Post # 10
Thanks for the nice words everyone. I feel much better now. I am happy that I started thinking about everything a little early because now, I have had to put wedding stuff on the back burnner because school is getting very overwhelming.
Post # 11
I’m plannning mine now and mine isn’t til Nov 2012 as well! Just think of all the options you will have with vendors and reception places, Don’t let her pop your happily engaged bubble!!! my sister (my MOH) is like we have to get crackin on planning this wedding missy!” I’m like what you mean i don’t have all the time in the world?? 🙂
Post # 12
@CTbride2010: We are date twins!!!
I got engaged on May 3rd 2010, and started planning on May 4th.. lol. Don’t worry about what Future Sister-In-Law says!
Getting a head start is great, You can pretty much pick any vendor you want because they arent booked yet, so no missing out on a favourite photographer or something because another bride got in first. Plus some places will give you 2011 pricing for 2012 dates if you book in advance. I figure that by the time the wedding rolls around, I’ll have most of the planning done and will be much more relaxed.
Post # 13
I got engaged in July 2010 and have been planning since then. It goes in phases recently – all of a sudden I’ll be hit with inspiration. I try not to buy too much stuff, just because I might change my mind. For example – I did change my colors a bit and had DIYed something with the accent color I ruled out. IMO…planning and taking on little DIY projects helps pass the time of a long engagement. I also spend a lot of my time on wedding boards gathering ideas from others and sharing my ides with them. I only bring up my wedding with friends/family when they ask. If I want to talk to someone about it now, it’s usually my Mom. I’m her only daughter so she’s just as excited about it as me.
Post # 14
I also just joined the “hive,” and like you got engaged in 2010 and is planning a wedding for 2012. Sometimes I feel like there is no rush to plan, and that we are ahead of the game. I mean, come on…its like in 2 years right? Who possibly plans their weddings that far in advance?!
And then we went looking for a venue and I had my world rocked. Not only did Mr. Oregon and I disagree on what we wanted, the ones we both liked didn’t fit our massive guest list (yes, mostly on my side) or our mediocre budget. Then we settled on about four different venues and to be honest, we couldn’t have lost at any of them, so we waited…and deliberated…and waited some more.
Then, of course, we narrowed it down to two possible locations. I called both locations to double check that the summer of 2012 was still wide open. It had been a month since we were out at the venues in person and there had only been a handful of inquries at the venues for 2012 before us. So…they had to be open right?
WRONG. One of them was booked all summer up until September and the other had a few vacancies in August. We grabbed the venue that had space in August and its what…March?
So when your future sister-in-law gets on you for planning too early, simply take a deap breath, look at her and tell her that you appreciate her input, but this is your wedding and that you don’t want to lose out on a great opportunity. Its never too early to start planning and searching for the perfect venue, dress or details…
Just remeber that this is yours and your fiances big day and plan away!