(Closed) Finally Moving in together and now Im scared. Mini vent

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m kinda going through it. So & I moved in together much sooner than anticipated (at least by me). I have a two year old, I get home two hours after my SO, so yes, it has been and adjustment. SO does do most of the cooking during the week. He says it is the least he can do because on the weekends, I make up for it. I do all the heavy clean, I also cook breakfast & do at least one large crock pot meal (sometimes two) so during the week we have leftovers for lunches & nights SO doesn’t want to cook.

The details will have to be worked out. It will be a team effort. You will be adjusting to his children and vice versa. You will probably have some rough patches (we did). But you work through them and it makes you guys (including the children) a stronger unit.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The first thing I thought about was the crockpot meals. I grew up with my mom and step dad being gone from 7 am to 6 pm at best. If your kids are old enough maybe they can learn to make dinner once a week together so its ready when mom and dad gets home for a treat. Youve raised 2 kids on your own Im sure you will figure out how to make it work with 2 more.

Post # 6
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh I totally get you on this one. I only have a two year old, so I can speak much for this, BUT I do keep a strict bedtime, this REALLY helps. My son is in bed by 8 PM every night. I am usually asleep by 10 pm. This gives me some alone time or time so spend with SO, or time to pick up the house.

I would try talking with your SO to implement a bedtime for all the children, it will give you some sanity to know ok (8 or 9, or whatever) is right around the corner, and you will get an hour to unwind.

Also, I don’t do ANY cleaning on Saturdays, I won’t allow myself. The most I might do is wash some dishes because I cook so much. But I leave all cleaning to Sunday afternoons, that way I have at least one day of my days off to relax, even if I am chasing a two year old. Also, doing it Sunday afternoon, you come home to a clean house Monday night. That feels good.

 

Post # 8
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Those little things will help.

I know how it feels to have so little time. I’m always wondering where did it go.

If the children are old enough for chores, set up a weekly chore schedule to rotate with the children. For example, one takes at the trash this day, on the same day the other puts away dishes. Little things, it all adds up and helps too not make you feel like a maid.

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