(Closed) Finally picked my wedding dress but so sad… :(

posted 10 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 29
48 posts

I’ve been thinking that I wish I had the money to open a bridal salon that specializes in plus size designer gowns. Because the experience you described just isn’t fair. I am sorry that your bridesmaids weren’t there to celebrate with you. So far, I have dress-shopped alone and I am waiting until next weekend when my mom flies in to help me decide.

I am so glad you found a dress and it is beautiful. And I am even happier that you have found a man you want to spend the rest of your life with.

You’ll be a beautiful bride! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 30
7 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your dress is gorgeous but I’m sorry you didn’t have a good experience.  I didn’t even go into a bridal salon to look at dresses because I knew it would be baaad.  Over 59, plus size, short = what will I wear? I finally orderd a custom dress from and Etsy shop and it will be here soon.  I am just keeping my fingers crossed that I haven’t made a mistake.  I gave custom measurements.

I had an email today saying she was working on my dress, it was turning out great but she needed a few days longer than originally promised.  No problem.  I just hope it looks okay.

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Post # 31
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012



I had a similar-ish experience..my mom lives across an ocean, so I’ve been sending her text pics and emails of all my options. My sister (who lives with me) appears to have gotten tired of my indecision and pretty much just checked out of the conversation – stopped replying to my emails and texts about dresses. When I found The One, I got no reply from sis, and the delay in texting between the US and UK can be long, so I got no reply from my mom either. So I didn’t have either of them to celebrate with either. Boo.

Post # 32
6580 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m sorry you had such a rough time. I think your dress is beautiful and I bet you look amazing in it! Don’t let anyone take away from your moment.

Post # 33
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Cherub71:  Im in bucks county, encore, older bride, wife now.  Feel free to PM me we can chat…and go shopping for shoes;)

Post # 34
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your dress is beautiful!! Its gonna look great on you!

Post # 35
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your dress is so beautiful and I bet you look so beautiful wearing it. 

We are here for you <3

Post # 36
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I went alone to look at dresses too. I move to LA to be with my Fiance and dont really have any friends or family close. It was a very weird emotion to do it all alone.

When I went to order it a couple weekends ago, Fiance was home (he works on the road) and I asked if he would come in and see it so I can get someones option on it besides the sales lady, but he said he cant see it til the wedding.. which I understand but I just wanted someone else to be there and be excited with me

Post # 37
946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sorry that you had such a negative experience buying your dress.  I think though, that at age 40 (I am assuming your bridesmaids are your age for this thought), women just aren’t generally excited about being bridesmaids. I think the best approach would be to lower your expectations for how involved with your wedding they will be, because otherwise it sounds like they will continue to disappoint.

THAT BEING SAID- there is something to be said about being a good FRIEND. Your friends should be better about being there for you- but sometimes people just don’t know how to be good friends. I can tell you from experience that it does NO good to get upset with your friends because they are not the kind of friends to you that you expect them to be, unless you’re going to sit down and talk to them about it. If you feel your bridesmaids are not being good friends (friends, not bridesmaids- I think there is a difference- not being a good bridesmaid doesn’t mean you’re a bad friend), then I think you need to talk to them.

I am also really sorry that you had negative experiences with people at bridal stores. I think that there is never an excuse to be flat out rude when you work in customer service. However, I think it is a fact that bridal stores will never carry a wide range of larger-sized dresses. I know that’s disappointing, but you will look BEAUTIFUL in your dress on your wedding day, and I’m sure the dress you picked will be fabulous. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 42
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Would love to see photos now that it fits you! ๐Ÿ™‚

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