- 3 years ago
- Wedding: January 2017
I’m sorry if I am all over the place. I am hormonal as all hell and upset and I have so much in my mind right now it is all coming out at once.
I have recently found out I’m pregnant and I have dealt with nothing but drama since then.
I am in my 30s and this is my first pregnancy, so I am obviously trying to be as cautious as possible as to whom I tell and when. The last thing I want to do is tell the entire world and then something happens. I decided we would tell my husband’s family after our first appointment in a couple of weeks. Once we see if there is anything even in there. I bought a pacifier and a cute box with a card that says “Est arrival (Date)”. I did the same thing for my mom who will find out the weekend before because of scheduling conflicts.
We told only his sister because she had told me when she first found out she was pregnant. She made me swear I wouldn’t say anything till she was ready and until she had her first U/S. I didn’t tell anyone, everything looked good, she told the whole world and everything was wonderful.
I feel like my husband and his sister are ganging up on me because I want to keep this a secret until I am at least 8 weeks along. His sister has done nothing but pressure me!!!!! She keeps making comments for me to hurry up and tell them before she does and how it is stupid that I’m in hiding and I should just tell them already.
Today for example (Happy Independence Day US Bees). My husband told his mother last night that we were going to her house today. Without even counting with my opinion. She is having a BBQ and the whole family will be over. I told him I am not going. I am a drinker and a smoker. The moment I step foot in that house, they will hand me a beer and wonder why I’m not smoking. If I stepped foot in that house, the secret will be out. This is just a small sacrifice to make for a wonderful surprise in a couple of weeks.
Well, my husband is pissed off and hasn’t spoken to me all day because he thinks it is bullshit I am hiding this from his family and basically insinuating I hate his family and he should be able to tell them when he wants. While I understand he wants to tell them, he doesn’t understand the risks of the first trimester and he doesn’t want to understand and apparently doesn’t care. I married a stubborn ass I swear.
Then I get a call from his sister! Guilt tripping me into going! Saying that her parents have gone through so much these last few weeks (all her fault btw…) and if we don’t go they will know it was me that didn’t want to go and they will be mad at me. And then she has the audacity to tell me that “no offense” but things like these are the reason why couples don’t work out because he will resent me for this. And then!!!! She tells me he doesn’t want to go without me because he will “hear it later when he comes back home”. As if I would get on my husband’s case for going to his parents house! I said I wasn’t going! I never said he couldn’t!!!!!
I am so over this! Between the two, they are completely ruining this for me. I yelled at my sister in law to pretty much mind her own business and told her I wish I never told her…. and I haven’t spoken to my husband all day. On 4th of July.
Bees, am I just hormonal and being an asshole for no reason? Or am I 100% entitled to hold off to tell people when I have visual proof that there is a baby growing in me. My only proof right now is 2 home tests and one at the doctor’s office.
I wanted to make the announcement cute. I wanted to really surprise them. I love my in laws and my sister in law so much, but apparently I am the bad guy for wanting to do it in 2 weeks.
I swear one more word of this and I will call my mother in law, put her on speaker phone and just tell her I’m pregnant. There! Problem solved!!!
OK vent over.
Sorry guys I really needed to get this off my chest before it drives me crazy.