Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I have been waiting for this moment: when I run into the “bad” ex boyfriend and get to casually slip into conversation that I got married. and of course inserting other interesting things I have been doing with my life these past years.
well, this happened last night. I finally ran into him. the best part: he didn’t have anything interesting to say about his life at all. he hasn’t changed at all in over 7 years.
oh, it felt so good. I am so petty, ha! whatever, he was a really sucky boyfriend and treated me badly, and broke up with me over the phone. it’s just nice to know that I WIN.
anyone else looking forward to running into an evil ex post-wedding?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
oh man. will somebody move this to the Lounge? I totally did not mean to put this in the beehive :/
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
@janie-janie: I ran into my abusive ex fiance about a year after I met my now fiance. He had gained a good 50 pounds, I had lost 50. He looked haggard and unkept, I had my nice work clothes on and looked great. It was the ideal see your ex situation. I thought I would feel happy and validated but really I just felt sad for him. He is such a horrible person and has no clue that he is. I feel bad that he won’t get himself the help he needs to have a happy life. I know it seems weird, but it gave me peace seeing him because I knew I did the right thing and ran far far away 🙂
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
The person I want to run into is FI’s ex – she treated him so terribly. I want her to see how happy he is now.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
@GroovyHippieChick: me too! I’d get quite a bit of satisfaction from seeing my exes but I know they know how well I’m doing. The person that I would LOVE to see is my FH’s ex, because she is such a self-centered jerk. She acted like he could never do as well as her ever again…well he did 200x fold and I’d love for her to know that lol (not being conceited – if you knew her, you’d know what I meant!)
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
@Legallyblondiebride: I could totally see how that would make you feel sorry for him. but good for you for leaving him! it’s nice to have closure.
in my case, my ex seemed perfectly content. not a loser, just uninteresting. when he dumped me, I was in a pathetic place in my life (unemployed and unhappy) and I kind of didn’t blame him for losing interest in me. not that that gave him a good exccuse to treat me badly but whatever.
I had always felt self-conscious about how I seemed to him back then. so it was just really nice to show him that I am happy again so his last impression of me wasn’t a crying loser.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
My most recent ex before Darling Husband FB msg’d me not long after the wedding congratulating me. It was the most random thing ever, since he didn’t even tell me he was dumping me 4 years ago – yup, not even a cowardly text or email, I found out from his friend that he was telling everyone we were broken up. Anyway, I found out his fiance left him, he quit the military to become a rent-a-cop and is living with his parents, again. I told Darling Husband about this and his response, “Boy, aren’t you glad that didn’t work out!” HAH!
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
I’m so surprised i havent ran into an ex yet – i’ve lived in the same city almost all my life so i’ve got a few of them floating around out there and the city isn’t that big! haha probably for the best.
running into an ex and them seeing how well you are doing is the SWEETEST revenge ever. haha
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@janie-janie: Congratulations 😀
Post # 11
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Busy bee
I ran into my ex a week after Darling Husband and I got married. We were buying some more household items for our apt. I got so excited, I wanted to casually stroll up and introduce my husband. Then his weird controlling dad saw me, literally grabbed him by the elbow, and turned him around and told him to walk the other way. Pfft…whatever. I was ticked at first, but after that display I really don’t feel the need to prove that I’m better off without him. His dad just took care of that for me.
Congrats on being able to do a silent “neener neener neener” Petty or not, it feels damn good.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
Right on.I only ran into one of me ex’s once. And it was bad, for me. I was about 7 months pregnant at work, at the coffee shop, in my terrible maternity uniform, that actually just made me look like I gained 50lbs ( you seriously couldn’t tell I was pregnant), my hair was a mess, and I looked like shit, because I was getting over a cold, but was made to come into work.
I literally hid, and refused to give him service. I know he noticed me. He probably thought he dodged a bullet with this one, haha. 🙁
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
@CherryWaves: what? he didn’t even tell you that he had broken up with you? WTF.
@cmvmph: and @GroovyHippieChick: I also look forward to hearing it from my SO’s ex. we’ve already ran into her before, and her behavior was so bizarre. I’m positive that when she finds out about the wedding she will call or email him.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
Lucky for me my serious exes are on the opposite coast. The couple of guys I casually dated on this coast before Fiance aren’t even worth glancing at.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
@Cash000: that’s rough, I’m sorry 🙁
maybe you will run into him again one day and it will be on a good day for you!
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
@janie-janie:
haha maybe. I don’t really care to be honest. I did at the time, but in hindsight it’s actually kind of funny!
