(Closed) Finally Reunited with Ex But I'm the Other Woman??

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What should I do?
    Confront him first. : (0 votes)
    Send this girl a message telling her everything. : (2 votes)
    3 %
    Nothing. Let them figure out their mess. : (44 votes)
    61 %
    Other. : (26 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 31
    2014 posts
    Buzzing bee

    fairymaiden2017 : So basically he blocked you which is why you couldn’t see him on there then some time passed and he was going through his block list and unblocked you because it wasn’t a big deal and he probably hoped you had moved on by then (I’ve done the same before), it WASN’T a date which is why he brought his friend along, he gave you some bullshit about the dinner and movie because you were making things awkward by pouting, he has clearly given you excuses for not actually going to said date and movie because let’s be honest, he doesn’t want to and you are calling this girl a skank for no reason at all (seriously, wtf is wrong with you?).

    I think you need to block him and seek some professional help.

    You “surprised” him by going to his country and hanging around in his family home for three weeks?
    You got visibly upset because he brought his friend to a baseball game/not date?
    Now you’re calling his SO a nasty name and considering contacting her? This is some serious fatal attraction shit and all you’re going to end up doing is embarrassing yourself.
    Please remove yourself from this situation and move on. This isn’t healthy.

    Post # 32
    2473 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    sunnyland :  please read “Confronting SO” post if you think this is bad. 

    Post # 33
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I agree that you need to move on.

    Regarding how you mentioned comparing subsequent people you dated to this initial guy, I think it may help you to understand that yes theres a reason first loves make such an impression on us–but recognizing what that first intense relationship was, for what it was (and keep in mind the amount of hormones we have in our teens)– it might help you to gain some perspective. Theres a good chicago trib article, “Why we Never Really get Over that First Love.”

    I hope it helps you move forward and to stop comparing future guys to that butterflies in the stomache-exciting-spark you felt in 2006.

    Be grateful for the memories you have from 2006. Heck, its ok to even be grateful that he met with you in 2016/2017. But dont forget the past is often seen with rose colored glasses. And it seems his ship has sailed, so move on to the future and another man.

    best of luck to you!


    Post # 34
    2014 posts
    Buzzing bee

    mrsdrake : Holy shit, it just gets worse and worse.

    OP, you said you asked him if you guys could be friends again so that’s exactly what was going through his head…that you’re FRIENDS, nothing more.

    Post # 35
    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    It doesn’t sound like that was a date at all, just a friendly get together. He has a girlfriend and it doesn’t seem like he wants anything with you, so he did nothing wrong. Sorry, bee 🙁

    Post # 37
    237 posts
    Helper bee

    Convinced this is a troll. There’s so many of these on the bee lately. yell

    Post # 40
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    fairymaiden2017 :  Sweetie, he never lead you on. You just misread everything because you wanted it to be more.  

    Coffee is a great way to catch up with an old friend and baseball was just him hanging out with you and another friend.  He probably feels sorry for you.  Separate yourself from this and seek therapy. 

    Post # 41
    11520 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    The OP has admitted this is a fake post – closing for thread review.

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