(Closed) Finally (seriously) looking!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

eeek, that’s so exciting! Was it your or his idea?

When do you think it might be official…. will there be a planned proposal do you think?

Post # 4
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

How exciting! Where are you going to go? 

Post # 5
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @FutureFong:  I see you are NEW to WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

That is exciting !!

As you are NEW to WBee here are some invaluable tips:

1- Use your try-on session to see what it is you like, suits your hand etc.  If anyone asks, tell them you have just started looking and are in no rush.

2- Don’t cave into any pressure to buy on this your first trip out to look… just use it as a scouting mission.

3- The Jewellery Biz is highly competitive… and sometimes agressive.  The majority of Clerks make money off of commissions… so there will be high pressure sales… and pressure to buy a particular style (they may even be pushing a line cause they’ll get a higher commission).  Or they’ll tell you that it is one of a kind, or the Sale ends tomorrow… etc.  They also might be pushing other products… such as a Warranty – Insurance – or Credit Card.

See # 2 Above

4- Take your time.  As I said there will be some pressure to make a decision right then and there.  Don’t cave into this.  This is how many Jewellers get guys to buy what they push in their direction… (see # 3 Above).  Or how they’ll try to work the two of you against one another… you want Ring A, he likes Ring B… he wants to spend X, you want to spend Y.  Don’t talk about such stuff infront of the clerk.  Remember this is just a scouting mission.

See # 2 Above.

5- Think this process / purchase thru.  Because it is a SIGNIFICANT Purchase, and not one easily gone back on.  Jewellery is a lot like a Car… once you drive it off the lot… it decreases in value, can be hard to trade, or return.

6- Do your homework.  Read up and learn all you can about Jewellery… more so if you want to buy a Gemstone … Diamond or otherwise.

Diamonds in particular can be immensely complicated… lots to know.

The Traditional 4 Cs… CARAT – CUT (Quality) – COLOUR – and CLARITY

Along with the modern Cs of… CERTIFICATION and CONFLICT FREE / CANADIAN

Add in some Ss… SIZE – SHAPE – STYLE – SETTING

And of course COMFORT and COST

So lots of variables… and each one can effect pricing.  There is NO RIGHT OR WRONG.  Every couple has to find an equation that works for them…

I strongly suggest that BOTH of you do some reading & research… the WBee Ring Board has tons of info, and the more you read it, the more you’ll learn

As well there are Websites that have great info too… Blue Nile has an EXCELLENT EDUCATION Section… be you looking for a Diamond or Gemstone (or Pearls).  They also have a section devoted to Metals too (Platinum – Gold – Silver – Palladium – and Tungsten)


And on Blue Nile they also sells loose Diamonds, so figure out how much a Diamond might cost based on different variables (the many Cs)


5- If you do your homework, and take your time… chances are you’ll end up with a Ring you BOTH love and treasure for many many years to come.

This is important, because an ERing is both a symbol of your LOVE as well as usually being a SIGNIFICANT Purchase.  Getting it right the first time is important.

Too many couples don’t and that can lead to hurt feelings and mistakes… some times quite costly ones…

Hope this helps,


Post # 8
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @FutureFong:  Less than 6 months to a year… that’s exciting !!

Lol, there are still 6-1/2 Weeks = 47 Days left in this Engagement Season… maybe you’ll be Engaged by Valentines Day.


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