(Closed) Finally Talking to the Priest

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We met with his rabbi together and my Dad is our minister (interfaith wedding) so I can say yes, I have met with my dad many times without my FH. lol But he has met with the rabbi by himself once because I had to work. It’s not unheard of and as longas you both meet with him together at some point then it shouldn’t be a problem.

Post # 4
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I tried but they don’t like it. My parish has been extremely difficult to the point where I have a counseling session this Saturday with a different priest. This is our second marriage but we were never married in a church. It’s not the paperwork that bothers me (FH paperswork will only take 2-3 weeks). It’s that we were told our date was fine  but when I wanted to pay them, they told me I had to wait for the papers to come back. Huh?

Did they “pencil” you in? That irritated me too. Our priest said, well things change all the time and in case you change your minds, it won’t mess up the book. Double- huh?

Post # 5
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@RobynB: Do you need an annulment?  If that’s the case, they don’t like to set anything in stone because there’s always a chance that the tribunal doesn’t grant the annulment or the investigation into the previous marriage takes too long and you miss your intended wedding date.

If you were Catholic at the time of the wedding and not married in a Catholic church, then that’s a pretty easy and straight forward annulment.  But still, priests are not allowed to “assume” an annulment and formally schedule the next wedding until the decree of nullity is made.  They can only really block the date on the calendar.

 

Post # 7
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33 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re getting married in Iowa where I was born and raised, but we’red doing our marriage prep work here in Denver where we are both currently living. I must admit I’ve been working weekends and not really attending church here like I did back home. I contacted the closest Catholic Church to me and after 3months… yeah that’s right 3months of playing phone tag and leaving messages the Deacon got back to me and said… You don’t actually belong to our parish, so you need to go to this other church. Are you kidding me? I’m so glad I started the prosses a year before the big day. I contacted the other church with apprehension of having a similar experience. Turns out this church was organized, speedy in returning their calls, and accepting of our situation. We’ve met with the Deacon, started the paper work, filed out the relationship assesment, and started our classes. We should be done with classes just before Christmas of this year. Whew! It really feels good to get the ball rolling. Glad you finally got your ball rolling too. I’m sure it’s a big relief. Best of luck to you on your journey.

Post # 8
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@erinkatie83: I’m glad to hear that it worked out.  What the deacon probably meant was that each parish has a geographical boundary.  If you are not registered in another parish, you are technically a member of the parish in whose geographical boundry you fall and should do all sacrament prep there.  The deacon probably just looked up your geographical parish and directed you to them.

Your geographical parish isn’t always the closest church – think about it like a state.  You don’t always live in the state with the closest capital to your house.

 

 

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