Post # 1
- Wedding: Mansion at Valley Country Club
this is in reference to next spring. i am currently in a program for which i will (tentatively) be graduating spring 2016.
only problem: we have our wedding planned for spring 2016. we made these wedding plans before i was sure i was going to complete my degree as early as i will be. here is the schedule:
3/01/16 – application for may graduation due
thursday 5/12/16 – wedding rehearsal
saturday 5/14/16 – WEDDING & end of spring classes
monday 5/16/16 – finals week begins
saturday 5/21/16 – spring semester ends
thursday 5/26/16 – GRADUATION / COMMENCEMENT
here is my issue. honeymoon is not an issue because we were planning on waiting a week, we will just wait 2. no big deal. but.
i want my degree to have my new last name. especially since this is one of two degrees that i will be obtaining. and i would like them both to say MRS.GROVE
is it possible to change your last name before the wedding? ideally, i would change it in february so the application for graduation would have all the correct info.
the scenarios i see happening:
1. change name early, degree will show Mrs.G
2. change name after wedding, degree will show Ms.B
3. change name after wedding, request an edited degree (is this possible?)
4. apply for august graduation (would really prefer not to wait……would like to start new position asap. also, application is due 06/01 so i’m not even sure i would have all the paperwork back for that either)
i’m going to go talk to a college advisor and see what they say. but thought maybe someone here had been through the same situation.
i’m in maryland, if that makes a difference.
Post # 2
Not sure how it works at your school but I just graduated Friday from the University of Georgia. We just had to verify our name for our diploma and whatever name you put on there was what was on your diploma.
Post # 3
I just graduated yesterday. The school asked how I wanted my name to appear on my degree. I could have used my FI’s last name if I wanted to. I opted not to, just because our wedding isn’t for another month and I want to actually be his wife when I first use his last name.
Post # 4
As previous posters mentioned, you may be able to tell your school how you would like your name to appear. Legally changing your name usually requires proof of marriage (a copy of your marriage certificate), so I’m not sure that you could do that before the actual wedding.
Post # 5
To echo PPs, when I graduated, it just asked what name I wanted on my diploma, you should be able to put your married name then. If not, you may be able to explain the situation that your name will be changing prior to graduation and you will need to edit your grad application.
Changing your name prior to getting married is going to be a huge pain, like a legal name change. It’s really easy to change after marriage, all you really need is your marriage license, but you won’t have one at that point, unless you get married earlier. Otherwise you have to go through the whole process of getting a legal name change, which is much more involved.
Delaying graduation just for a name change is silly. Don’t do that. I’m sure something can be worked out with the school.
Post # 6
At the school I worked for you would be required to show ID or other documentation to have a different name than the one they have on file. But really it’s at the discretion of the people in the registrar’s office, so if you’re nice and explain the situation then they could let you get away with it. Also, bring in your receipt for the marriage license if you have it already. Also also, you can order a new diploma at any time and it should be rather cheap ($10 at my school) so this is really a non-issue.
Post # 7
- Wedding: Mansion at Valley Country Club
thank you all for the advice!
i will talk to an advisor at my school to see what they say. hopefully it is as easy as just explaining the situation! 🙂
i definitely don’t want to delay graduation. that would be silly.
and i don’t want to get legally married before, just to get the diploma name issue sorted out. (i ddi consider this as an option) but i want to get legally married on the day of. 🙂
Post # 8
I would see if you can have your degree printed with your new name. Darling Husband graduated from medical school and there were quite a few girls that got married right before or right after graduation and all their diplomas said their new married name.
Changing your name prior to the wedding is going to be a difficult and long task – there’s a lot more required (in some jurisdictions you’ll need a judge to sign off on it) when changing your name outside of something like marriage or divorce.
Post # 9
One of my classmates actually did legally change her name about a year an a half before getting married so that she could use her married name on her diplomas, professional licensure, etc without having it all switched over afterwards. Personally, I would feel weird doing that, but it’s an option.