(Closed) Finances and Setting a Wedding Date

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Personally I think if you are not financially stable, it isnt the best idea to get married so quickly, if you are wanting to have the big wedding. If you can afford a wedding without going in debt, go for it. If you cant, then really in my opinion, you need to have a small affordable wedding, or live together and wait with the wedding.

Post # 4
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

yea i agree with weeonebride, dont try to have a big wedding quickly if you cant afford it. And there is always the option of living together before the wedding

Post # 5
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3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I guess I’m confused as to what question you are asking.  If you are asking if you should go into debt to have a wedding now rather then save up and have a wedding you can afford later, then my answer would echo the pp’s.  

If you are asking whether the financial stability (or lack thereof) should prevent you from marriage (talking future stuff here, not wedding stuff), then I’d say it depends on the circumstances and what the two of you have discussed and how well you understand the other person.  My husband and I have very little in savings and are living with my folks until we get to a stable point and can get a place of our own.  A lot of people might look at the face value of this and shake their heads and think how crazy we are to have gotten married before we were financially stable.  However for us, if you looked closer, you would see that I had a pretty good amount socked away until I met my husband and started dating him.  lol  6k mile relationships aren’t easy on the pocketbook for either party!  Add in immigration fees etc and that wiped out a fair chunk of our savings.  It happens.

I knew going into the marriage that we weren’t going to have a lot to begin with and that I would have to adjust my lifestyle to match our/my new goals.  We both discussed all the pros and cons of everything and this was the best way for us.  Our savings are growing and will continue to do so come heck or high water!  😀

So um… that’s my story to help illustrate what my other answer.  😛

 

ETA:  Completely forgot part of what I wanted to say:  If you are wondering about financial stability and your future then you need to have discussions with your FH and think long and hard about things for yourself.  Do you both have the will power and personal integrity to do what you have to do to make ends meet and put away savings for rainy days?  Eh… I think there were more questions I wanted to add in with that, but it’s almost 2am and my brain has stopped working now.  lol  Make sure you are both on the same page and that you both have complete trust and confidence in each other (not just blind trust either!  Go based off of past precedence).

Post # 7
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Finances of course affects when you get married, as well as the type of wedding you want to have. Its all up to you to decide what is more important, having a dream wedding or having the wedding right away

Post # 8
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16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Sounds like the conversation is going in two ways. Previous posters are saying that an expensive wedding may not the best idea until finances are figured out.

But the actual getting married part? Really doesn’t have a lot to do with money. At least, in my opinion, it shouldn’t. So if you both are ready to be married, go for it. Just have a plan for the money side of things. 🙂

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