(Closed) Financial commitment as a Bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5800 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m probably on the higher end but I’m expecting to spend 2500-3000 to be in my friends wedding. Dress was 280, Shoes were 75, Flew out to go Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping – 220, Flying out for bachelorette – 320, bachelorette “costs”  – 500, flying for wedding – 280, gift for wedding 200, gift for shower – 75, makeup day of wedding – 100, hotel for wedding – 450

yep, already 2500 and I’m not even throwing her shower


Post # 4
3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think we’ll be able to give you a good estimate. We don’t know things like, how far away you live, etc. Costs for dresses, hair, makeup, shoes…..they’re all incredibly variable.

Post # 5
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It really depends… I have been in a few scenarios – from a cost of $500 (for clothing, gifts, bachelorette, etc) and up to $1500 (for a wedding I had to travel for). It ain’t cheap but it depends on the bride. 

Post # 6
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would estimate about $500 minimum not counting travel expenses should they exist.

Post # 7
3229 posts
Sugar bee

It depends on the bride really. I’ve been a bridesmaid six or seven times (I’ve since retired) and I think the most I’ve spent is $600 but my friends are pretty low key. If you’re not sure, I think you should go ahead and save $1-2K just in case.

Yikes, good thing I have low key and local friends because I just calculated $600×6 = $3600 which seems like a lot but some people spend that much just to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in one wedding.

Post # 8
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It is hard to give an estimate without more details. I was in a cousin’s wedding and I only spent about $500 (partly because the bride paid for our hair/makeup and my mom and other aunts threw her shower), then I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend and I spent closer to $2000. I think a safe estimate is at least $500, but it can be a quick climb to $1500 or more.


Post # 9
8444 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My BMs are paying $400 for their flight from CA to NC and that will be their only wedding expense.  I didn’t do a bachelorette party, but we met up for dinner and drinks, but we each paid for ourselves.  I didn’t want to cost to inhibit their ability to stand with me on my wedding day, however $400 is still a lot of money to ask someone to spend.

Post # 10
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It is hard to say. One wedding I was in I spent like $300 for everything (it was a low key wedding). The one I’m going to be in this year the dress was $200, I live about 3 hours away so I’m guessing like $500 in gas total, then the hen party is most likely going to be a spa day so I’m not sure what that will cost. Id guess like $1500-2000 for the wedding this year.

It really depends on the style of wedding she is going for, how far away you live, where it is taking place (buying dresses, hair/makeup, etc can vary drastically depending on were you are).

Post # 11
4921 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Last wedding I was in cost about $1500, but I hosted the bachelor party which was about $400 of that. 

Post # 12
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The last wedding I was a bridesmaid in I spent about $1500

Dress: $100 / Shoes: $60 / Accessories (she ended up gifting up jewelry to wear but since I didn’t know that I bought new stuff) $30 / Gifts (Shower & wedding): $150 / Bachelorette (no gifts, just payed for her drinsk & dinner): $200 / I had to travel from out-of state so my travel expenses were pretty high (CA to GA): about $500 in flights & another $350 for hotels (which I split with another BM)/ Plus all that other extra smaller stuff like food & transportation…. Did my own hair & makeup as I was on a budget & none of the other girls cared anyway… 

Post # 13
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@cmbr:  I agree with

this. Everyone’s costs are completely different.

Post # 14
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I spent about $1000 to be in the last wedding I was in, and it was a pretty low key affair. That was essentially just for dress, make-up, travel, hotels, very low key bachelorette weekend (as in dinner and dancing with the girls, no Vegas, etc) and a wedding gift. It adds up fast!

Post # 16
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My BMs are paying:

dress: $200

flights: $200 (appx)

hotel: $400

Total: $800  

They didn’t pay anything for my showers (except gifts) but I didn’t include those.

I’d definitely expect to pay around $1000 for a wedding that is out of town, maybe a little less for one that is in town. 

I’m doing my best to minimize costs since they have to travel so far. 

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