Financial dilemma – Has anyone else done this with their rings?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
8440 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Love the idea of getting your permanent rings at 1 year!  Go for it!

Post # 17
1002 posts
Bumble bee

We did something similar to this, and now use the “dummy” rings for traveling and other activities when we don’t want to put our nicer rings at risk.  They make nice stand-ins.

Post # 18
627 posts
Busy bee

TheGridMonster :  Yes!

The idea is lovely, but there’s also something sentimental about the wedding rings. Wedding bands on their own can be inexpensive. If you want a big, blingy ring, you could keep some of the sentimental value by marrying with a very thin, inexpensive, gold band, and then later getting that resized to fit another finger.

I have a friend who later turned her engagement ring into a ring for her middle finger. It looks beautiful, and she still has the sentimental value. Could you do something like that? You can find bands on etsy for under $100

Post # 19
5161 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

While not entirely for financial reasons, I originally opted out of an engagement ring. I did not get a fancier ring until a while after we married. The ring is not what makes you engaged, or married, or anything of that nature. I know many with strong, loving marriages who don’t wear rings for example, or wear simple sterling silver bands, etc.

So yes, you can do as you wish. My recommendation is if you are the sentimental sort, you do look at getting some simple solid gold wedding bands. ewedding bands has very reasonable prices, but if you are okay with going used, look at diamondbistro, loupe troupe, ebay, and even local pawn shops. I regularly see gold bands for $50-60 second hand. If you don’t find your size you may need to spend $30 or so to resize 1-2 sizes but still inexpensive overall. Or, look on etsy for some sterling silver bands. There are some lovely ones that even have engraved designs, etc. You can always move it to another finger later, or even use it as an alternate ring when you are camping etc after you get new rings.

Post # 20
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

It’s a lovely idea, and a lot of people upgrade.  

We had a somewhat similar situation, and a huge chunk of our wedding/honeymoon budget needed to be used to pay unexpected medical bills.  To be honest, I just ordered our bands from Etsy.  They’re thin gold rings, and I didn’t pay more than $150.  I don’t know if we will upgrade in the future, but I’m extremely happy with the purchase.    

Post # 21
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

mermaidlagoon :  I believe the ebay seller is called wavejewellery, all they sell is rings. It is a good deal because our local jewellery store doesn’t carry rings any smaller than size 6 and then charges for sizings, my ring size is 4.5, when you see the difference inrice when you change the ring size on there it makes you realize how much people with smaller ring sizes are being ripped off by paying for a larger size and then paying again to have it made smaller. After taxes and sizing the most plain simple gold band at the store would have cost me about $175 but the one I got was around $75 + $25 for shipping. Here’s the pic of the band I got (this is the sellers pic, but I have recieved it and it is as shown)

Post # 22
2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

so many ways to go about this – actually getting “costume jewlery”, just getting plain gold thin bands (which are usually very reasonable), getting a setting with a simulant (I won’t go over all the options but there are tons) and then replacing it with a “forever” stone (diamond or not), getting a gemstone ring instead etc

Post # 23
137 posts
Blushing bee

I kinda like the idea of getting your forever wedding bands so they’re sentimental, and you cpuld get the ering on your 1 year anniversary! You can get plain gold wedding bands in the $100-$500 range, so it night be worth it to look into that route. You can even get mens rings super cheap. One of my best friends makes more a year than I will ever own in my life, and he chose a tungston wedding band for $50. 

Regardless, I hope you figure it out! We were suppose to get my ring two years ago, but financial blows keep making it so we can’t. I’ve had my heart broken by seeing so many diamonds sell! You two will figure it out though 🙂

Post # 24
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

People upgrade their rings all the time.  I don’t think I’d have a problem getting attached to new rings.  Lol.  They’d have their own story and be a reminder of the next chapter.

Post # 25
5533 posts
Bee Keeper

Berricle is your friend.. Even having a chris cz set would do the trick.  Get the stand ins and use the savings for what is really needed!

You could get married with a pop can tab on your finger and no one would care!  just enjoy the experience 🙂

Post # 26
1244 posts
Bumble bee

I think it is a great idea! It works best for you budget-wise and you are both in agreement so why not? People upgrade their rings all the time or they get damaged and replaced. The ring is simply a symbol. We still have our cheapie silver wedding bands that we wore to Mexico for our honeymoon. Besides you can get some very pretty sterling rings for cheap and no one would be the wiser. Then once you do get your forever rings, you could add a photo of your hands showing your new rings together to add to your wedding album. Done like dinner.

Post # 27
283 posts
Helper bee

mermaidlagoon :  Being a sentimental soul, I’d go for a berricle / similar engagement ring, but try to get a cheap gold / palladium / long term metal wedding ring (only if the budget allows) beacause this can be saved and swapped out later, but would last better than silver to hand down to your children (if you choose to have them). 

Post # 30
1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would suggest plain gold ‘real’ wedding bands. At least you can keep those forever – and just upgrade your engagement ring later on.

When we got married we were in University – and had NO money. My engagement ring was $124, and our wedding bands were just over $100 each. They’re real gold – but my diamond is smaller than a grain of salt. Finally this year on our anniversary we upgraded my rings. The marriage has lasted 25 years – so obviously the price of the rings doesn’t show the amount of love we have for each other.

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