- 9 years ago
You do NOT need to have a ‘trust issue’ to begin with, to look through your partner’s phone. If they suddenly start acting strange, then it is in everyone’s best interest to find out what’s going on. And anyone who has been cheated on knows that the worst thing you can probably do if you suspect cheating is to confront the suspected cheater. They will gaslight you till you think YOU are the crazy one, all while carrying their antics further underground leaving you in the dark for even longer.
I’m not advocating infringing anyone’s personal space. I also find paranoid partners frustrating and would hate being with someone who constantly who found reasons to monitor or suspect my actions but there are times when something feels very, very wrong and you would be foolish to ignore this. Case in point: If your DH comes home late once, then he probably just worked late or hung out with friends. That’s great – no need to trup off and sabotage him the minute he walks through the door. But if he constantly keeps coming in hours later than before and acts distant as well – with no logical reason for either action, then something is fishy and if questions don’t get you anywhere, then what? Are you going to bury your hand in the sand and pretend all is well? I doubt it. Remember, snooping means nothing if there is nothing to hide.