Finding a couples counsellor/therapist

posted 6 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
994 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

We found ours on the Psychology Today website. You can filter by your insurance provider, the counselor’s specialties, age, gender, faith etc. We adored our therapist and I highly recommend couples counseling, even if there aren’t major issues in your relationship.

Post # 3
1921 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

TravelingBride31 : What state are you in? This might help with suggestions. I think the TTC should be halted until you two have had some sessions with the counseling. 

If you are in Indiana, this place is fantastic for couples or just for yourself.



Post # 6
3513 posts
Sugar bee

I also used I did find that we needed to go out of our insurance network to find the best fit…a lot of the good ones don’t seem to deal with insurance. The profiles were really helpful to read, and we found a great one by just looking through to see what “clicked” with our situation and things we wanted to improve on. We also found a really bad one in another state, so it’s definitely trial and error…if it doesn’t feel right and they don’t seem to understand you after a few sessions, try someone else.

Post # 7
19 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

My spouse is a relationship therapist.  Here’s what I would say after witnessing his work.

Most insurance doesn’t cover couples work, so be ready to pay out of pocket.

There are two major frames of reference (schools of thought) for couples work, one is Gottman, the other is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).  You could read, or flip through, Gottman’s Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Sue Johnson’s Hold me Tight to see which resonates more with you.

Gottman is more about changing your behavior. EFT is more about understanding the emotions behind your partner’s behavior.

Both Gottman and EFT have websites with their trained therapists.  Otherwise, you are getting a generaly trained therapist who happens to work with couples, rather than a specially trained couples therapist.

Psychology Today is a good route to go. As are friends who go to therapists, if they are willing to talk about it.

Good job being proactive!

Post # 8
994 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

TravelingBride31 :  You’re welcome! Also, PPs are right about most health insurance not covering couples counseling. Our therapist had to designate my SO as her indentified patient and use his insurance, since family therapy was a covered benefit for him. So even though I wasn’t technically her patient, I was still able to attend the sessions with him and we still received counseling as a couple.

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