Post # 1
I went wedding dress shopping with my mom, grandma, and sister last night. We found a dress that all three of them absolutely loved and are encouraging me to buy. There are a lot of positives about this dress – it looks great on, would nead almost no alterations, is a good price, and is pretty comfortable.
So what’s the problem?
Well, first the issue is that I’m planning a short notice wedding meaning I must buy off the floor. That means that I don’t have the luxury of time for deciding if I want this dress. If I don’t buy it now, it may be gone. There is less than 4 months until the wedding.
The second is that the dress misses on some pretty major criteria for me. I was looking for someting that either had straps or could be altered to have them because 1) I want to be able to wear a normal bra, and 2) I need to cover tan lines. I’m having a destination wedding in Mexico and I’ll have some pretty obvious tan lines by the time I’ve been there for 5 days.
The thrid thing is that the dress isn’t beachy at all. I could get over that if it wre perfect in other ways. This is the dress for anyone who’s interested. http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Soft-Gown-with-Ruched-Bodice-and-Embellished-Strap-SWG494
So what do you recomend? Part of me wants to buy it and never have to think about wretched dress shopping every again, part of me is very worried about buying a dress that I have such doubts about.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016
@cbgg: Its very pretty, but don’t buy a dress your having doubts about before even owning it!!
Post # 4
It’s a beautiful dress, but I can see the bra concern. I think you should give the dress trying a few more tries, just one or two more weekends – then go with it if you don’t find anything better.
Post # 5
Take it from a bride who has had one heck of a time when it comes to wedding dresses. I had one I loved, but because it is not the typical wedding dress and I had one horrible reaction, I fell out of love and kept searching. I am on a budget and stuck with two dresses right now trying to make the decision. I love both dresses and don’t know which direction to go. Feel good about your dress when you buy it! Keep your chin up! 🙂
Post # 6
Even though time is running short, you still have enough time that I would suggest looking a little longer before settling on something that you’re not all that excited about. I agree with the suggestion to try look another 1 or 2 times over the next couple of weeks and THEN get this dress if you don’t see anything else you care for. Since you don’t seem to like it that much, it doesn’t seem to me like it will be that big of a loss if it does get sold.
I agree that dress doesn’t really seem “beachy” to me. I think of chiffon as more of a beachy fabric than satin charmeuse. Did you already look at all the chiffon gowns on DB’s website? If you see one you like, maybe you can call around to all the DBs in the area to see if they have a sample in your size.
You also could try buying a dress off one of the sites like preownedweddingdresses.com
If you are willing to accept the risk that comes with buying a dress online without trying it on, you could try having a gown made by DressilyMe.com since they can make a dress faster than the usual bridal stores do.
You don’t have time to order a designer dress from scratch, but you still have plenty of time to have alterations done, so as a last resort I think either buying a used gown in a larger size (so you can be certain it can be altered down to fit you) or just buying a white evening gown at a department store would certainly be options. You’ll be fine. 🙂
Post # 7
Ask yourself if you went back the next day and it was gone would you be upset? That is the answer. If you buy a corseted dress you won’t need a bra and I suggest investing in some self tanning lotion to apply daily to your tan lines
Post # 8
I say keep looking until you find one you love!
Post # 9
If you love it, get it! (and wear a strapeless swimsuit top so you won’t have any lines to cover) If you don’t love it though, you still have four months. I just got my dress (from davids bridal I might add) and they said it would only take 6 weeks to get, and a lot of places you can buy the sample dress that is there, go with what you want, not what you feel pressured to get!
Post # 10
Four months is plenty of time to look for a dress. I’ve been engaged for eight weeks and have found so many beautiful dresses already. You could always go back to this one, worst case scenario. All the doubts you listed make me think this definitely not your dress.
And I second looking at preowned wedding dress sites! Even if you don’t end up buying off one, I found it super useful for just getting a very comprehensive cross section of all the different options out there.
Post # 11
Thanks ladies, all great advice! I’m going to spend a few more weeks looking.
@nativedesires: Good idea about the tanning lotion – I hadn’t though of applying daily to tan lined.