Post # 1
Okay, I’ve posted before about having cycle concerns after being on BC for 10 years, stopping several months ago in preparation of TTC and how my GP was very dismissive and just told me to go on vacation if I want to get pregnant. Even though I told her I was NOT yet TTC. She told me she wouldn’t do any testing unless we’ve been trying for a year. She checked my thyroid, that’s it..it was normal.
=( Well, I”m now on cycle 9 of being off BC, and still having issues with my periods being very short, like one or two days at most, and very light. We have been using barrier methods but just recently stopped, so I guess you could say we are casually TTC. I’ve also had a couple incidences now where I bleed during intercourse, but it looks like old blood, then it brightens up a bit then goes away within an hour or so.
I’m just so worried that I”m not ovulating and what I”m seeing every 22-26 days or during intercourse might simply just be breakthrough bleeding. I don’t want to try for a year and put myself through emotional hell if I’m not even ovulating at all. I also do not temp, use opk’s or check CM…and honestly I find it all very tedious, maybe I will feel differently after sseveral months of TTC but right now I just want to now if everything is normal from a doctors point of view.,..one who actually will listen.
Also, being a student nurse, I just can’t stop thinking of all the things I know can go wrong, hormone deficiencies, uterine lining issues, etc, etc.
I”ve never been to see a gyn, I”m not even sure where to start. Do you think it would be a good idea? Any tips on finding a good one? Or do you think the problems I describe with my cycle are concerning?
Post # 3
Of course you should see a gyno. I can’t believe we have to say this to a nursing student. If you are sexually active or over the age of 18 you should be seeing a gynocologist regularly – either every year or every 3, medical reccomendations vary – but yes! You absolutely should. It’s part of your routine health care and helps make sure that you don’t have any major problems, can catch cancer early, etc. Seriously, it takes about 5 minutes once the exam starts.
Now, whether you’re ovulating – a regular exam will not be able to tell you that. If you tell her your concerns, she will maybe consider more testing. Honestly, there may or may not be a problem from what you’ve described and you’re not actually TTC yet, so there’s no real way to know. You might just be one of those people with really light periods (I apparently am) or there might be something going on.
Honestly though – I would think not charting and wondering all the time what is going on, whether I ovulate, whether I have a problem, etc is a whole lot more tedious and stressful than the literal 3 minutes a day I spend charting. JMO, though. PLUS – if you do have a problem, my understanding is that the first thing an RE would ask for is about 6 months of completed charts. I would think if I was trying for a year with no baby in sight, that the last thing I would want to do is wait 6 more months. I could be wrong about that though, I haven’t had to go the RE route.
Finally – fire your GP. Apparently they have no idea how babies are made and don’t respect your concerns. Not to mention that a GP isn’t the appropriate doctor for fertility testing anyway – so it’s not really up to them to do that. Only make a referral.
Post # 4
Some women just have very light short periods, especially after being on BC for such a long time, and you said that it was very recent that you actually stopped using any protection (barrier method) and started TTC, so I think it’s quite early to be worrying that you’re not ovulating, particularly when you haven’t been charting or anything . The bleeding during intercourse is something I would want answers on though.
It’s always important to feel like your doctor is listening to you though, and it never hurts to get a second opinion if you feel that you’re being brushed off. And if you are TTC that means at some point soon you’ll need an ob-gyn anyways, so I would start looking for good ones in your area. However (and maybe some of the charting bees who had trouble TTC will have more info on this), I’m really not sure how much even a gyno will be able to tell you about whether or not you’re ovulating without charting being involved – they can check some hormone levels and what not, but being that you’re not charting and just stopped using protection, I think any doctor is going to be hesitant to start running tests for a problem they have no reason (at this point) to believe exists. You’re probably being a bit paranoid because you’re a nursing student and do know things that can go wrong, but I’d do your best to try to relax about it – stress can mess with all of this too!
ETA: When you say you’ve never seen a gyno – do you mean you’ve never had a pap done or anything? Because if so, that is pretty concerning and I would get one ASAP, that’s something any sexually active women should be doing. Didn’t really occur to me until I saw the last poster’s response. My GP did pap smears, so I was assuming you’ve still been getting that sort of thing done even without a gyno.
Post # 5
Wow I can’t believe he told you to just go on vacation! How frustrating! I would def think a trip to the gyno is in order, and like @Mrs.LemonDrop: said I would recommend charting. I don’t find it to be at all stressful when you can use fertility friend which pretty much does all the work for you, and I found that I was much less stressed out when I could see what was going on and try to be informed so that I can advocate for myself better when going to to dr. We’ve only been trying for a couple months, but I can clearly see that there are a couple of issues on my charts which would prevent us from getting pregnant, so now when I do go to the dr I can tell them that I want tests now, because of these specific reasons.
Post # 6
How did you get birth control without seeing a gynocologist??? Anyway, I found a place that only has women doctors, which made me more comfortable when I went for the first time. Good luck…
Post # 7
Yes, definitely see a gyno — I don’t know how you got on BC without seeing one? Regardless of what’s going on with your cycle, you should be seeing a gyno every year for a check-up anyway.
To me, one gyno is as good as the next. It’s more important that you just get in there and see someone. Just go onto your insurance company’s website and look for a gyno who is accepting new patients and is conveniently located to you. If male/female matters to you, factor that in, too.
Post # 8
Don’t feel bad – I never went to see a gyn/ob till I got pregnant because I moved so frequently, I just never set up an appointment. However, it is definitely a good idea to see one! Look up reviews online, or ask around for your friends’/family’s recommendations, and make the call!
Post # 9
I agree with pp posters, definitely see a gyno. I hated my first gyno; she was brusque and never explained what she was doing or had time to answer questions. I asked some of my friends about their gynos, got a recommendation and found a doctor I am much more comfortable with now. All that to say i would recommend getting input from friends or family before choosing a gyno, if possible.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone, just to be clear, I have had paps every year until the age of 30 (now she tells me I only need them every 2 or 3 years), they were done by my GP who also rx’d me the pill all these years. I’ve also gotten the pill from PPH during times I did not have insurance.
I guess where I live, not alot of my friends see gynos, we are all late twenties, early 30’s..honestly most women I know see their GP for general gyn issues. I guess it might be a regional difference as to wether or not women chose to regularly see a OB/GYN.
You could say I’ve been very healthy all my life, only seeing my GP once a year for a physical, and at 18 they started throwing in those paps and I just never saw or felt any need to see a specialist of any kind for something my GP does routinely…so hope that clears up why I haven’t seen a GYN.
And also, it is my udnerstanding that a period that only lasts one day (sometimes two) is not exactly normal. I wouldn’t say that I have no cause for concern. Before I was on the Pill and while I was on the pill my cycles were always about 5 days of moderate bleeding.
I do understand that as we age, our periods can get lighter, but one day a month? So I think I will see a GYN, for a more focused assessment of my gynelogical health. As far as charting goes, I do light charting but my sleep schedule is a mess being in school, I tried temping for a few months but it was so all over the place I couldn’t make anys ense of it. My CM looks exaclty the same to me all the time. no kidding…and so what’s left is OPK’s…well, I might try those in the next couple of months.
Post # 11
@fresitachulita: definitely see a gyno. GP’s aren’t always particular enough.
Post # 12
@fresitachulita: Glad you are going to see a GYN. I didn’t realize people could get their GP to do pap smears; where I live, everyone just sees a gyno. In fact, I’m somewhat bad because the only doctor I regularly see is the gyno — not the GP. Good luck!