Post # 1
Is it impossible? I am feeling stuck as up until a couple months ago, I was working as a nanny for the past 8 years. That is pretty much all I have known and love. It was coincidence when my job ended and a week later I found out I was pregnant. I was seeking out jobs, but immediately stopped looking as I knew that working in that field would no longer be an option with my own child. Now, I am currently taking classes while considering taking the plunge to seriously looking for a job. I have been casually looking up until now. Now, I am getting to that point where I am going insane that I am not working at the very least part-time.
So my question to the Bees: Did any of you job search while pregnant? How did it go?
Post # 3
I moved country and started looking for a job when I discovered I was pregnant! I looked up LOTS of peoples stories online
My job can be quite dangerous for expectant mothers so I came clean straight away-they would have to put extra safely precautions in place for me… I had done the interview and received a job offer but I found out a week before actually starting..
So A few days before I was due to start, I called them up (nervously) and told them the truth. I figured that if they wernt going to be cool about it, I was better off not working for them as you do need lots of support throughout the pregnancy.
Anyway I was very lucky and they offered me the job anyway.
Check out your rights, people cannot discriminate against you and not offer you a job because you are female/ pregnant AND you legally dont have to tell any boss until a certain number of weeks before the birth (check your local laws)
I would keep to to myself during the interview process and tell them after you are offered the job (Discrimination does still exist but they will more likely turn you down for another fabricated reason)
Best of luck, when I checked my local laws I felt a lot better/ calmer about the whole thing “,
Post # 4
I’ve never been pregnant before so I can’t really answer from personal experience but I do have an opinion on the matter.
Would you be disclosing the fact that you’re expecting?
When my SIL was pregnant she was looking for another job. She was at the stage in her pregnancy where she was showing but with the proper attire, she could still kinda hide it. She and my Brother-In-Law felt that not disclosing the fact that she was pregnant was fine and that everything would work out but Darling Husband and I felt differently.
As small business owners, we would feel deceived if someone who we just hired didn’t disclose the fact that they were pregnant. If there is a job to be done, hiring someone who will end up being out of work for 12 weeks in a matter of months probably wouldn’t sit well with me. If this person disclosed their pregnancy then it would be one thing but dropping that on a new employer after you’ve started is wrong, imo. I’m sure that most people on this board would disagree with that but I also doubt that most people are small business owners.
I live in NY which means that we have “at will employment”. As long as there is no contract in place, an employer can terminate an employee for any reason. Of course race, age, gender, etc would all be discrimination but I don’t think that pregnancy is, unless that would be considered “handicapped” which I kinda doubt.
I’m sure job hunting while pregnant isn’t impossible but probably just more of a challenge. My advice would be to be honest and upfront about the pregnancy and hopefully you can find an employer who is willing to hire despite your impending time off.
Post # 5
I guess you would have to ask youself if you felt deceitful or not by hiding your pregnancy. My parents own their own business for 30 years with 95% female workers and this became an isuue from time to time, but things usually worked out.
Even male workers acceptng a job may up and leave in a few months for personal reasons, hiring and firing has certainly always been an unpredictable area 🙂
I guess the best thing to do is to check your local laws, they should protect you- sexual discrimination also includes examples where pregnancy is an issue.
You are not the first person in this situation! Everything will work out for you 🙂
🙂 Best of luck
Post # 6
@UpstateCait: as a small business owner, I agree. If it will be a problem, it’s best to know up front, and the last thing you want when you start a new job is a boss who feels like you lied to them.
Post # 7
Thank you for your responses, ladies. That is what is very conflicting. I do not feel that it is honest to go about an interview and a job offer, then finally let them know. I know that would not be the best way to start off a position. However, telling an employer I am pregnant in the interview process would most likely disqualify me immediately from a position.
Post # 8
It’s a hard position to be in. My theory is that if you’re truly the person for the job and the employer can see that, they’ll be willing to see past the slight inconvenience of a maternity leave for the right candidate.
Good luck with your job search!
Post # 9
If you’re looking for a permanent job it may be an issue. But, if you’re just bored and looking to make a few bucks until you baby is due, I suggest you work in retail. Now that the holiday season is fast approaching I would think it would be relatively easy to get a temporary job for a few months.
Post # 10
@UpstateCait: “Of course race, age, gender, etc would all be discrimination but I don’t think that pregnancy is, unless that would be considered “handicapped” which I kinda doubt.”
Pregnancy does fall under equal opportunity employment. There is a pregnancy discrimination act that amended the civil rights act so it is illegal to refuse to hire someone because of pregnancy. Of course it happens all the time because a lot of people don’t want to hire a pregnant lady, but technically it’s illegal.
Post # 11
A fried of mine got a promotion while pregnant, she kept it from her superiors until she got the job. However, I think that was a poor choice because now they are not going to promote her again any time soon.
Straight up its a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation with pregnancy and job hunting. Telling them might be an automatic ding, but lying I feel like sets you up for a lot of potential problems.
Post # 12
The Pregnancy Discrimination Act, (“PAD”), which was an amendment to Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 provides that: – An employer cannot refuse to hire a pregnant woman because of her pregnancy – Pregnant employees must be permitted to work as long as they are able to perform their jobs – Discrimination on the basis of pregnancy, childbirth, or related medical conditions is unlawful sex discrimination under Title VII They may not hire you because of another reason but there are laws to protect you. Good luck!
Post # 13
Honestly, it’s pretty crappy that our society is still set up this way that pregnant women have to worry about being discriminated against. I wouldn’t disclose the information during the interview process as A) they really don’t need to know that then, and B) it would almost certainly disqualify you from the position, although the excuse would be something other than your pregnancy of course.
If you are offered the job, I would disclose the information then, before accepting the job, and see what they have to say. If they rescind the offer, well then that’s pretty crappy and you don’t want to work for them anyway. By waiting until then to disclose the info, you’re not causing the company any hardship as any logical company would hold off on rejecting the other applicants until they have an official acceptance from their candidate. Not to mention the fact that you have a rock solid case under the discrimination act if the offer is rescinded after you disclosed your pregnancy….
Honestly, I think this all sucks – I understand it can be difficult for small businesses to lose someone to maternity leave but it still falls under the umbrella of discrimination to not hire someone based solely on their physical condition. I know here in Australia we have a clause saying that you have to work for a company for 12 months before you’re entitled to paid maternity leave (you still get your time off work regardless) – is there anything similar in the States? If so, I REALLY think there is no reason to not hire a pregnant woman if she’s the most qualified. Just my two cents though.
Post # 14
@Ree723: Some places have paid maternity leave, and you can take up to a certain amount of time after that which is unpaid, but you have your job. At least in my occupation, but I don’t know how much of either and I know it does vary from firm to firm (a lot of my friends plan to do the work a year, have kids, go to part time, then quit and do stay at home work)
Post # 15
@troubled & @rachiecakes: Good to know, however, when an employer finds out that their employee didn’t disclose the fact that they were pregnant, they can still terminate them and just not cite a reason (atleast in NY). I’m sure the woman could file a lawsuit if she really wanted to but I don’t know if she’d actually get anything out of it except some unneeded stress and legal fees.
I still believe that honesty is the best policy. I don’t think that a pregnant woman should just go into an interview and immediately announce that she’s expecting (unless she’s pretty far along and it’s painfully obvious) but I do think that it’s in everyones best interest if the employer is made aware before an offer is accepted. I guess I just don’t see the point in wasting everyone’s time if it can be avoided. An hour or two for an interview is one thing but going through training and using the companies resources is another. As much as the woman has rights, the employer does too. Often times people don’t like to think about that but they do have a business to run.
@guitargirl: Exactly. If I felt deceived by an employee, their days would more than likely be numbered.
Post # 16
I am thinking about my options. I feel like I pigeon-holed myself into my nanny career for so long that I am now seeing the painful results of it. I had a hard time leaving it though because I loved it (I miss working as a nanny so much), and the money was incredible (of course that wasn’t what kept me doing it, but it was a very nice perk). I am in one hell of a conundrum, and hopefullly I will figure this all out soon. Perhaps I will seek out temporary employment to keep me occupied for now and seriously seek a new position after my beautiful baby boy arrives.
Thanks again ladies for the input 🙂