(Closed) Finding a job while pregnant

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am 6 months pregnant now, and have been looking for a job for the last 3. Yep, no luck! DH and I figure I won’t find out until after the baby is born…

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@Marriedandlovingit:

hmmm. If you loved your nanny job so much, would it be possible for you to take a child or two into your home, kind of like a mix of daycare and nannying? Maybe that’s dumb, I don’t have any kids… Lol.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

he he he, i spent HOURS in front of the mirror trying to hide my belly. I got hired at 6 months. I walked into the interview with a BIG black bag that I used to cover my belly the whole time, it was quite comical trying to angle myself so i didnt look prego. Think of how actresses carry laundry baskets and wearing coats to mask their bellies in shows. So i got the job and walked in the first day on the job VERY prego ( no big coat) and my bosses jaw dropped. ha! yes it’s illegal to not hire someone cause they are prego but no one wants to hire a prego chic.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@UpstateCait:Firing/laying someone off because of pregnancy is illegal even for small businesses (at least in the states I’ve lived in).

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Ree723:We have that in the US for most companies, to, so, for example, I do NOT qualify.

I am very glad I did NOT tell my employer I was pregnant when I was interviewing — I had a miscarriage just a couple weeks later and would not have wanted to deal with that with all of them.

(for those of you that know my story, you know they did find out about my miscarriage, but that’s a totally different thing)

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@Angelz_love:Very true.

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@PasteMoo: I am now aware that it is illegal but that doesn’t mean it still doesn’t happen. Like I said in my pp, I’m sure the woman can sue if she feels that she was discriminated against but I don’t know how far she would get.

As for being a small business owner, if I hired someone who I felt deceived me then how can I trust that person? If I can’t trust someone, they certainly won’t be working for me long. Terminating an employee due to trust issues is not illegal.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@UpstateCait: good point. I didn’t lie, I would never lie to  my boss ( my own boss ASKS me to lie to her and i tell her i can’t!) But I knew I would not have been considered if they had seen my belly. No one wants to train a pego chic cause they worry she wont ever come back from maternity leave. It cost more money. My Fi used to be a store manager and told me he HATED when his employees got prego cause he wasnt allowed to hire someone on a temp basis until they came back and he said they NEVER came back when they said they would. his store would suffer.

In any event good luck to OP i know its tough but it IS possible.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@UpstateCait:My bad, I somehow missed the 2 previous posters citing the discrimination laws.

Also, not telling “I’m pregnant” is not lying. Also, many many people don’t announce before the 1st trimester. Miscarriages are terribly common. Just like not saying “I’m gay”or “I may look white, but I’m actually half black” or “I’m a new mom” are all not something you should say in a job interview and are illegal for an employer to ask.

I understand you don’t want to have an employee who LIES, but lying, and not sharing protected information about your disability status are not the same thing.

I respectfully disagree with your position.

I do see how it could be frustrating to hire a new employee only to have them leave for maternity for 6 weeks in 7 months after they are hired. But, hey, people quit, and rough things happen all the time. My coworker was hired when I was hired, and her husband tragically (VERY SUDDENLY) passed away. She took several weeks off, tried to return to work, and then put in her 2 weeks notice.  Sometimes a pregnant woman can be a very reliable hire because you know she’s going to try her best to make a great impression so you’ll be excited have her back after her maternity leave and still have room for promotions, etc. 

You can’t judge her and know if she’ll just be there until she feels too uncomfortable to work, or if she’ll fall in love with the job, and like my own mother, go back to work too few weeks after birth just to get back into the mix and feel “normal” again. Her pregnancy motivated her to work harder and “prove herself.” Other women want something to keep them busy, and then want to be a stay at home mom. You never know.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe you could wait until job offer and then reveal you are pregnant before accepting? If you have a plan of how much time you are taking off and when you are back it would help your boss to be more comfortable with situation. My SIL was in a similar situation but she worked right until she was due and was able to come back as soon as her maternity leave got over. She had family nearby to support taking care of baby so not sure if your situation is same but again its making sure you are able to work with your boss with it.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Have you thought about looking into temp work?

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2007

I haven’t read any comments.. but why can’t you nanny once you have your own child? Sounds like a perfect fit to me. My brother’s family had a nanny and their second child was about 2 months older than the nanny’s first. She just watched all 3 kids.

I’d be totally open to a having a nanny with a child.

By The Way – I interviewed when I was about 8 months pregnant. I didn’t get hired for the position (which honestly wasn’t what I really wanted anyways) but they did call and hire me 8 months later when the position I wanted opened up.

You can totally get a job when pregnant – you just might not get ‘full’ maternity leave benefits because many companys reqiure you to have been there for a year.

Good Luck!

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