Post # 1
We are not having a religious ceremony. It is hopefully going to be at an old theatre, not a church, and we are not associated with any church.
My question is … where/how do you find an “officiant?” I mean, are they judges … or what???
Who the heck are these people and where do you find them? Also how much do they charge? (I feel kinda stupid for asking all these questions) lol.
Do they only have specific places where they’ll marry people or do they travel around?
Can we meet with the officiant to get to know them before we book them? I don’t want a stuffy/boring/super serious person marrying us. I want to feel comfortable, not uptight or anything.
So…how do I start this whole officiant process??
Post # 3
Most justice of the peace are elected believe it or not. You can usually go to your local city website for a list. Most charge anywhere from $100-$250. I suggest meeting with a couple and then figuring out which one you click with. Sometimes you can even find pictures and profiles of them on-line.
Post # 4
Oooh, an old theater? I hope you get it! That sounds super cool. Have you considered having a friend marry you two? Anyone can get liscensed for free online. Then you can write your own secular ceremony! Otherwise, maybe look on your city/county government website for the justice of the peace. =) We gave our officiant a 100 dollar giftcard. He was not a government employee, though…
Post # 5
I second @chicken little’s suggestion of having a friend/family member marry you.
We want a non-religious ceremony and I don’t think I would feel comfortable have a “stranger” marry us.
If you do go the officiant route, google officiants in your area and then set up meetings with them to just talk to them and ask them questions. You can also google questions to ask officiants so you can be prepared. Meet with as many as necessary. Don’t feel obligated to book them beacuse you met with them.
Post # 6
Like mwitter80 said, try your city’s website first. Make a list of possible candidates and Google them to see if any have been mentioned; our officiant’s name popped up all over the place – she came highly recommended!
Most people who perform wedding ceremonies are prepared to travel a bit if necessary, but be aware that depending on the distance, you may need to reimburse them for transportation costs on top of their fee (which is usually very reasonable).
Definitely meet with them first. It’s important to click with the person who’s marrying you. Be sure to bring up anything you feel particularly strongly about at your first meeting so you all know where you stand before anything gets booked. I wouldn’t worry too much about encountering stuffy officiants. These people make practically nothing by performing weddings, the vast majority of them do it for the love of it.
Good luck on the search!
Post # 7
Goggle professional officiant Since I leave near a beach city it was easy. But that’s how I did find my officiant.