Post # 1
Before we were married, we didn’t mind just hanging out with our single friends all the time (we are the first of our friends to marry, and none are even in serious relationships!).
We both feel like we should try to find other couples to hang out with (not that we’re dropping our friends, but we thought it would be fun to have at least ONE married couple to do things with).
Does anyone else feel this way now that they are married too? And where on earth am I supposed to find these people??
Post # 3
Craigslist? LOL just kidding that could be shady. We are actually in a similar situation so I will be interested to see what responses you get.
Post # 4
oh yes. I hung with out with almost exclusively single people when we were engaged long distance, because those were my friends’ situaitons!
It’s fun to hang out with other couple, but don’t leave your single friends out to tdry because you’re married now. I think there’s defintiely a lot of fun to be had with single friends without making them feel like the third wheel.
For coupley things, we have found friends through our church, hubby’s married friends (most of his friends are married or engaged), through school, and work. Usually one of us does the “scouting out” to see if we’re compatible and then we plan something casual or in a groupto see if we click. It’s a little bit like dating and sounds a little silly, but we want to develop lasting friendships, not just hang out with people we don’t get along with in order to have something to do or people to go out with.
Post # 5
We have the same feeling – even though we’ve been together for years, hanging out with single friends and doing single things (like going to the club, etc.) seems less and less relevant for us. We have made a few couple-friends through work over time. Other than that, since we dont belong to a church or any other organization, most of our friends remain single or dating.
Post # 6
It is very nice to have other couples to hang out with because they are usually interested in the same types of evenings. Although I do have some single friends who I consider a couple just because they are so much fun and fine with a casual dinner party or trip to the shore.
Post # 7
I want to do a cooking class or something after we get married in order to meet other people. I’m also probably going to join a book club, hopefully the FH can meet a few people trying to find a poker game or something. I find it’s extremely difficult to make new friends when you aren’t in school, especially us, since we moved to a new city post-graduation! My work doesn’t really lend itself to making friends, and FH’s work pretty much all transferred here from PA, so they were all friends before.
Post # 8
Ah taking a cooking class sounds like fun! We took a ballroom dance class but we didn’t really make any friends; everyone else in the class were much, much older than us =(
Post # 9
We are lucky in our situation because basically all the people that husband works with are our age and married so unlimited couples to hang out with! We don’t see them as often as I would like though.
Post # 10
Like some others have posted, pick a hobby or interest that you both have as a couple & just start doing that more often…”couple” friends will start to pop up before you know it.
Fiance & I are both die-hard Notre Dame fans (FI is an alum & I’m an SMC alum), so we quickly made friends by attending the ND Club of LA game watches.
If you feel skilled enough & your friends or or his are “ready”, you could double “first date”. My friend does this all the time with our single friends: whenever she meets someone at her yoga class or on the plane, she thinks about which of our single friends would be most compatible with the new person & then invites the new person out for drinks with herself & some “friends” (our single guys & her husband). This takes the pressure off of a “blind date” because she & her husband are there & if it doesn’t work out, it’s no biggie; but if it DOES workout, she (& her husband) are the first “go-to” couple the new person invites out.
Post # 11
yeah I am lucky my husband has friends who are married or coupled up whereas my friends are mostly single, a few have coupled up
Single friends are mostly mine, We met a couple on vacation and hung out with them when we got back home and are still in touch even though I moved to England now.
My hubby who travelled a lot before has friends who travel and drop in, we hung out with a Canadian couple his friend and girlfriend; we hung out with my hubby’s other good travelling friend in Germany and his girlfriend now wife; we hung out with his other new Zealand friend and his girlfriend when they were visiting in London, and another Australian friend and his girlfriend and now wife; so most of our couple friends are mainly my husband’s friends and their Girlfriend or wives; mostly if we’re travelling or his friends ar travelling; one of my hubby’s good friends close by has a new girlfriend so we double dated; so nice when everyone is included and no one is out of place
Yeah it’s hard having my hubby and going to a single girlfriends party someone is out of place when there are two couples, its all even no one is a fifth wheel