Post # 1
I’m finding it hard to be happy or excited about my wedding (which is almost 7 months away!) when Hurricane Sandy destroyed the entire first floor of my fiance’s family’s home.
I currently live with my Fiance in his parent’s house. We intended on moving out around March which should coincide nicely with my shower. Hurricane Sandy hit a week ago today. 26 years living in that house across the street from the lagoon and they’ve never experienced flooding. The water came down the street quickly. Within 3 hours it was coming into the house from every door – front, back, and garage. They ended up with about a foot of water in the house. When they realized the water was going to come into the house, they tried to get everything important off the floor, but there’s only so much they could do. I, on the other hand, was making myself sick to my stomach because I’ve never experienced anything like this. Fiance told me to grab our cat and head upstairs. I began dry heaving because I was thinking of the worst. One week later and the entire first floor basically had to be thrown out – couches, dressers, cabinets, misc. collectibles, dvds, papers, etc. We had to rip up ALL of the flooring and throw out all rugs. We had to tear down about 2 feet of sheet rock in every room, as well. Unfortunately, at this time, we can’t live in the house since there’s no power and it’s gotten VERY cold. Fiance and I are currently staying with his brother who let us bring our cat. While I’m thankful for a place to stay that has power and I know my cat is safe, I feel so displaced. I miss my bed. I miss having dressers and closets to keep my clothes in. Right now all of our clothes and toiletries are in various bags strewn about the room we’re staying in. This feeling is horrible.
And then. . . there’s our upcoming wedding. FI’s parents were going to give us money towards it, but we agreed that we’re not going to ask them for a dime now. FEMA is helping them out tremendously and the money is already in the account, but at this moment we don’t know if it’s going to cover EVERYTHING. With so much to do at the 7 month mark I have little to no motivation to do anything. I feel numb. At the same time I feel like I should be focusing on the wedding to keep my mind off of things, but it’s so hard. I’m hoping with time and as the remodeling begins this will get easier and I can focus on the wedding. Right now, though, everything sucks. . .
Post # 3
@madteaparty: Maybe the wedding will give you something positive to focus on once you’re ready. It’s ok to feel out of touch now.. just give it time. Be thankful that everyone is alive. I know it’s so easy to say.. but homes can be replaced, lives can’t. Everything will fall back into place. In the meatime, I’ll be praying for you!
Post # 4
@madteaparty: I completely understand you. Most of my FH’s family members have lost their houses completely, a few of them were burnt down due to the freak fire and others jave 8-10 feet of water in due to Sandy (this is in the Long Beach area).
Over here it’s been tough thinking about anything but hoping for electricity to come back and finding gas to fuel our cars and go to work – but think positive!
Times will get better just go through things day by day and don’t stress yourself.
Good luck and stay safe!!
Post # 5
@madteaparty: I’m glad you, your Fiance and your cat are both safe and warm. *hugs* I can only imagine how it feels to be displaced like that. // You have 7 months until your wedding so you have time to recover. And, I’m sure everyone will love to get together to celebrate a happy time when your wedding arrives. Take care!
Post # 6
I am so, so sorry you’re dealing with this, especially so close to your wedding. (hugs).
This is probably the most annoying advice in the world, but you have to try to take things 1 day (or maybe even 1 hour) at a time.
Right now, focus on getting your everyday life back together, little by little. Make sure you are warm and safe and have food and water. Be thankful for those little things. Surround yourself with people (and animals and things) that you love. Every once in awhile, see a stupid/funny movie or eat an entire carton of ice cream. It may seem to take forever, but the everyday things will slowly get back to normal.
In the meantime, call your wedding vendors. I’m sure that if they are experiencing the same or similar storm damage as you and your family, they will completely understand if you have to postpone things or make big changes. Just see what your options are. Again, take it day by day, month by month. Don’t make any hasty decisions out of fear or worry.
Just try to stay as strong and positive as possible. And don’t feel guilty or weak if you need to cry or throw something every once in awhile. I cannot imagine dealing with the aftermath of a natural disaster like so many people are right now, but in the end it will make you stronger as a person and it will make your relationships stronger (both with family and friends and your SO).
My fiance and I have never been through anything like what you’re describing, but we’ve dealt with death, sickness, job loss, etc. in 4 years and though those times were (and still are) really tough, it has brought us closer and made us stronger.
I’m going to get really corney on you now and leave you with a quote from one of my favorite movies:
“Hope is a good thing. Maybe the best of things. And no good thing ever dies.” ~ The Shawshank Redemption
Post # 7
I just want to stay good luck & stay strong. You guys will pull through this. Take things days by day. It’s hard to be excited about something when there is so much devastation surrounding you.
Post # 8
@madteaparty: Wow, that’s terrible. Thankfully it wasn’t worse. There is so much terrible things happening in the areas being affected by Sandy. Be thankful for what you do have, and try to take your mind off things by focusing on your wedding planning.