(Closed) Finding it hard to be happy. . .

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@madteaparty:  Maybe the wedding will give you something positive to focus on once you’re ready. It’s ok to feel out of touch now.. just give it time. Be thankful that everyone is alive. I know it’s so easy to say.. but homes can be replaced, lives can’t. Everything will fall back into place. In the meatime, I’ll be praying for you!

Post # 4
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@madteaparty:  I completely understand you. Most of my FH’s family members have lost their houses completely, a few of them were burnt down due to the freak fire and others jave 8-10 feet of water in due to Sandy (this is in the Long Beach area).

Over here it’s been tough thinking about anything but hoping for electricity to come back and finding gas to fuel our cars and go to work – but think positive!

Times will get better just go through things day by day and don’t stress yourself. 

Good luck and stay safe!! 

Post # 5
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@madteaparty:  I’m glad you, your Fiance and your cat are both safe and warm.  *hugs*  I can only imagine how it feels to be displaced like that.  //  You have 7 months until your wedding so you have time to recover.  And, I’m sure everyone will love to get together to celebrate a happy time when your wedding arrives.  Take care!

Post # 6
1597 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am so, so sorry you’re dealing with this, especially so close to your wedding. (hugs).

This is probably the most annoying advice in the world, but you have to try to take things 1 day (or maybe even 1 hour) at a time.

Right now, focus on getting your everyday life back together, little by little. Make sure you are warm and safe and have food and water. Be thankful for those little things. Surround yourself with people (and animals and things) that you love. Every once in awhile, see a stupid/funny movie or eat an entire carton of ice cream. It may seem to take forever, but the everyday things will slowly get back to normal.

In the meantime, call your wedding vendors. I’m sure that if they are experiencing the same or similar storm damage as you and your family, they will completely understand if you have to postpone things or make big changes. Just see what your options are. Again, take it day by day, month by month. Don’t make any hasty decisions out of fear or worry.

Just try to stay as strong and positive as possible. And don’t feel guilty or weak if you need to cry or throw something every once in awhile. I cannot imagine dealing with the aftermath of a natural disaster like so many people are right now, but in the end it will make you stronger as a person and it will make your relationships stronger (both with family and friends and your SO).

My fiance and I have never been through anything like what you’re describing, but we’ve dealt with death, sickness, job loss, etc. in 4 years and though those times were (and still are) really tough, it has brought us closer and made us stronger.

I’m going to get really corney on you now and leave you with a quote from one of my favorite movies:

“Hope is a good thing. Maybe the best of things. And no good thing ever dies.” ~ The Shawshank Redemption

(hugs again)!!! 


Post # 7
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I just want to stay good luck & stay strong.  You guys will pull through this.  Take things days by day.  It’s hard to be excited about something when there is so much devastation surrounding you.

Post # 8
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@madteaparty:  Wow, that’s terrible. Thankfully it wasn’t worse. There is so much terrible things happening in the areas being affected by Sandy. Be thankful for what you do have, and try to take your mind off things by focusing on your wedding planning.

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