Post # 1
So I’ve got four weddings coming up in the next 7 months, and unfortunately the 2 closest ones I completely disapprove of.
The first wedding is for my cousin, who has been on very rocky ground with his fiance for the past 6 months, to the point where they broke up about 4 months ago… she then found out she was pregnant. I, and a few other people in the family, very much suspect she deliberately stopped taking the pill in the hope that she’d fall pregnant during the rocky period so he’d stay.
Like the smart people that they are, they’ve decided to not only go ahead with the wedding, but rush it so that it’s in two weeks.
The next wedding on the weekend after is for an old school friend of mine, who, despite everyone telling her she’s idiotic and the majority of her friends and family refusing to go to the wedding, is marrying the man who beat her up and stole her credit cards during one of their [many] public breakups. I would boycott this too, if I didn’t think that she might need some friends down the track when he inevitably becomes abusive again.
How do you cope while you’re sitting here seeing all of these train wreck relationships progress while you’re perfect one hasn’t? How do you guys deal with waiting when you have to go to wedding after wedding that just makes a mockery of the whole philosophy of marriage???
Post # 3
Wow…that is tough!! I have a hard time myself with no weddings to attend in the near future! I think both of the situations you mentioned are pretty bad. Like you said, your friend will probably need you in the future so that would be a hard one to boycott…however I would express my concern to her in marrying such an asshole! How long have you been with your SO?? Do you have any idea when he may propose?? Just wondering…sorry you are having a bad day 🙁
Post # 4
I kind of understand how you feel! My SO’s best friend (he’s the best man in the upcoming wedding) is marrying someone totally wrong for him. The situation isn’t nearly as bad as you described (abuse isn’t an issue, thank goodness), but we both have a strong feeling that this marriage will end in divorce. It’s hard to watch and it’s even harder to say what the appropriate action is to remedy the situation.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this… I know it’s hard to focus on this now but try to remind yourself that when you do get engaged (which is hopefully soon!) that you’ll be entering a healthy, loving marriage!
Post # 5
@misskittykakes, I’ve been with SO for a year and a half. He has given himself a timeline, he said he plans to propose anytime between now and next May… So while I know us getting married is coming and I’m really lucky to be with someone who has a plan set down, it’s just hard seeing all of this crap in the mean time. I’m already on edge knowing that a proposal could come anytime!
I’m definitely not jealous of either couple getting married, honestly no one would want to be in either situation… It just bugs me that they’re getting married and I’m not. That’s how petty I am!
Actually, does anyone else worry that if there a lots of weddings happening around you, that when you and your SO get engaged some people might think it’s just because getting married is ‘the thing to do’?
@cts861, I’m doing my best!! I think it’s only annoying me so much because SO and I attended the bucks/hens events for my cousins wedding over the weekend, so there was a lot of wedding talk going around, which brought it all to the surface. I know exactly what you mean, it’s so hard to watch someone you care about go into something that you’re sure will fail. 🙁