- 5 years ago
I have been wearing my engagement ring for about 2 and a half months, and as time goes on, I am noticing more and more (potential?) flaws in the craftmanship.
The backstory and another question I have is at the end of this post, but here are the things I have noticed. I know very, very little about rings, and knew NOTHING about proper setting at all until now. So I would like to get some opinions of people more familiar with rings to know if the things I am noticing are normal variations, or if they are flaws.
-The prongs seem like they come too far above the table of the diamond.
-The tips of the prongs appear to be bulky and rounded instead of tapered at the points.
-I can’t show a picture of this, but the little notch in the prong that fits around the girdle of the diamond? Well I have noticed that on one prong, the notch fits snugly around the girdle. But for the other three, I can see varying amounts of light showing through. The gaps are small, but different on all three. Because they are all different, this seems like a flaw to me, but I have been unable to find pictures online of a correct prong setting that is close-up enough to see.
-The band is very uneven. At the top where the head meets the band, one side is much thicker than the other. At the bottom, it looks dangerously thin to me. The differing thickness at the top is the one thing that I know for a fact is a flaw, because I noticed this immediately. I just recently noticed the thinness at the bottom, but I have only been wearing it for 2.5 months, so I question whether this is due to wear and tear.
-The band is definitely less than 2mm, which I have been told is dangerous for 14k yellow gold.
My fiance and I went ring shopping together, but I knew he intended to actually make the purchase at a different jeweler his family knew from his hometown in Connecticut. But once we left the store we looked at together, we both said we really liked the guy we talked to and he thought he wanted to go with that jeweler instead. This was a very reputable place in Boston.
Neither of us knew much about rings at this point, so when I showed up to that jeweler wanting a 4-prong solitaire setting for a 0.5 carat diamond with a thin band in yellow gold, he told me that for the safety of the band, I shouldn’t go less than 2 mm, and that the head would be white gold, not yellow, to make the stone look better.
Once my fiance proposed, however, I found out that he changed his mind and went to the jeweler in his home town. The Boston jeweler took notes regarding the 2 mm thickness and the white gold prongs, but obviously the jeweler in my fiance’s hometown did not know this, and in fact did not even ask my fiance about the preferred thickness at all. Actually, he gave the diamond (which was my grandmother’s) to his mom, and his mom took it to the CT jeweler, so he didn’t have any direct contact with the jeweler who made the ring. I think this might have been the source of miscommunication.
If it was only miscommunication, that would be one thing, but because I have noticed so many flaws, I am beginning to think that we shouldn’t even go back to this jeweler to get the ring fixed. I would like to go instead to the jeweler we saw together to get the engagement ring redone, and also for the wedding bands (which have not been purchased yet).
I don’t know how much my fiance paid for the setting. Part of me feels like he should get money back for this ring, if indeed the things I have noticed are flaws. But I also don’t even want to go back to that jeweler again, and just take the ring to the place we went to together. Any advice on this?