Post # 1
This seems like a really silly thing to need help with, but getting engaged last week made me realize that I don’t really have a lot of friends here. I am originally from Iowa, but after finishing grad school last year I was lucky enough to find a job in the same city as my now FI and moved to the NY Capitol Region.
My FI’s friends have welcomed me with open arms, and my boss and his wife are also around my age and are very nice. But, two of my FI’s (and my) friends just moved away, and as great as those who are still here are they’re all engineers and sometimes I’m left having absolutely no idea what they heck they’re talking about. And as much as I love my boss, I think it’d be nice to have friends who I don’t work with as well.
Most of the time when we socialize, we end up meeting people at a restaurant or bar. That’s a lot of fun, but it isn’t cheap and now we are now trying to save money for the wedding. Added to that, I’d love to have friends that are interested in doing healthy activities. We’ve been working on living healthier since January, and do pretty well except when we hang out with friends. Beer and restaurant food do not always equal a healthy night. I’d love to do more exploring of the area, whether that’s hiking, biking, visiting museums, whatever.
So I guess what I’m asking is, does anybody have any suggestions for how to meet new people, especially ones who would be interested in doing something other than meeting up for drinks? Or, do any bees live in the NY Capitol Region and want to try to meet up?
Post # 3
Check your local meetup groups online. You will meet and potentially make friends with like-minded people.
Post # 4
Can you find a kickball or softball team to join? My FI and I met a lot of friends through our running group, but not everyone likes marathons! Try meetup.come!
Post # 5
Recreatiional sports teams are great. They are organized around people of a similar interest, but attract diverse types of people nonetheless. Generally they are quite casual, but are part of an organizational structure that puts you together with others. Aside from work, this stops happening when we are adults, but that’s actually how we met all of our friends as kids – school, scouts, sports, 4H, dance classes, whatever. They are purely social and recreational, so there is no overlap with work, and so there is no awkwardness about figuring out the boundaries around that.
Post # 6
I haven’t read your whole post OP, just popped in to say- the best luck I have had is to take a class in something I am interested in- adult ed, college, university, whatevs.
Post # 7
@jpr: I feel the same way sometimes, we just to Saratoga Springs recently, and he knows a lot of people in the area because he grew up here, but I don’t. Mostly I just hang out with our neighbors, who are all great, but they’re a lot younger than us. Anyways, where in the Capital District are you located? Maybe we could get together if you’d like.
Post # 8
Look for running stores in your area!
They often meet up for weekly or twice weekly runs, split into ability level. You get to run, and then maybe have coffee after. You can train for races together and stuff. It’s fun! Maybe you meet awesome friends, worst case scenario you get excercise. Win.
I have a few of these ‘fitness friends’ and we always have the best time. Sadly I don’t live in the ny area.
My FI is an engineer and I TOTALLY get what you mean too. Best of luck!
EDIT: The running group folks are often interested in hiking and biking type activities too, plus healthy eating activities like recipe swapping and farmers market visits.
Post # 9
I second the dance class suggestion. We were really isolated in our town when we moved here, but having joined a studio, my FI and I are starting to make friends and have the opportunities to go do things. It’s hard to make new friends, but having people to socialise with around an activity really, really helps, and it’s easier on the waistline and the wallet, especially if it’s an activity you were going to do anyway.
Post # 10
My FH and I also have a terrible time making friends. We moved to the Rochester, NY-area about a year-and-a-half ago, and we still don’t really have anyone to hang out with. As another poster suggested, a recreation league is a great way to meet some folks. Once this wedding planning business is done this summer/fall, I’m definitely thinking about joining something with the FH.
When we moved to Buffalo several years ago, I joined a women’s roller derby league. After about a two or three practices, I instantly made 100 new best friends, and constantly had something to do. It’s worth checking out, especially since there is a league in Albany. Even if you don’t want to skate, leagues love volunteers and are happy to have you involved!