Post # 1
I have to admit I’m fairly angry with my family. I don’t really have a place to discuss this apart from my husband and I’m sure he has already heard more than he cares to. He loathes my dad and fot good reason.
I posted a few months back about my 21 year old cousin who committed suicide while on drugs. Now about 6 weeks ago my Uncle was in a fatal car accident. He wad one of the few good guys ib my family do it was hard but like with my cousin I pudhed aside my feelings to be strong for my aunt who lost her daughter and brother. No big deal at all. I did the same when my grandma passed last year.
Do last week I go online and see posts from the same aunt asking for prayers. Her and my two other aunts blew up facebook asking for prayers of healing for their brothet who was hospitalized with congestive heart failure and they were to take him off life support. The brother is my own dad. I was there for them through everything with the family this last 18 months, as much as it broke me. My grandma and I were the closest of all the grandkids but I comforted them when she passed. But my dads heart fails and not one person, not even my own brother, tells me. I had to find out via fb and I left comments and sent messages asking what happened and ehat was going to happen only to be ignored. I had to start making a bunch of phone calls just to get the basic information and now no one is thinking to give me at least an update. I get its their brother but its my dad and no one thought I would want to even know?
There isn’t much I hope to get from writing tgis apart from having a place to vent. I’m just so tired of it. At my grandmas funeral I held my aunts and cousins as they criEd. I held my tears to be strong even though I was one of the only ones to keep up with her and visit het. When my cousin passed I stayed strong and had to miss the funeral. My license wad suspended for seizures and I was going to ride with my mom but my brother couldn’t afford a sitter for his two kids so I stayed behind so he could go even though I wad closer with my cousin. Noe my dad is living on borrowed time and no one thinks to let me know or even respond to my questions? I’m so ready to throw the towel in on the ehole family, they’re a bunch of whack jobs anyways.
Post # 2
Mrslovebug: I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this! I’m not on bad terms with my family at all, but my parents kind of do the same thing…they feel like it’s “bothering” me to keep me up to date with what’s going on with the family (none of whom have Facebook or email or any way I’d just see what’s going on with them). I found out my grandpa on my mom’s side was dying a couple years back when she told me she was going to go visit him one last time – thank god I was able to get myself together in a day to join her (he lived pretty far away).
I don’t have any advice here really, just wanted to say I’m sorry.
Post # 3
ebarnes0: thank you for your response. I’m sorry about your grädpa. I don’t think I would be so upset if I wasn’t 30 weeks pregnant but I have been there for my family this whole time and now sll of a sudden I’m being shunned for no reason. I mean come on, how hard is it to give the man’s daughter a phone call before facebooking the details? Now I get to answer all the 1uestions from my inlaws and try to ecplain why I don’t know how he is doing now or anything.
Post # 5
your family is being absolutely ridiculous. the only thing I can possibly think of reading that you are 30 weeks prego is that maybe they were trying to keep you from being upset? but if they were they wouldn’t have splattered it all over facebook. i’m so sorry you are having to go through this. do you live close to any of your family members to just show up and confront them about what’s happening?
Post # 6
Mrslovebug: Are you estranged from your father? I am sorry you are going through this but if you are estranged maybe it was his wish for you not to be contacted.
Post # 4
Mrslovebug: You have my sympathy. I cannot imagine how upsetting this must be. I hope you can work things out with your family. HUGS
Post # 7
I’m so sorry you are going though this. Unfortunately many people don’t worry about doing the right thing as much as they worry about how uncomfortable it may make them feel. They should have told you personally. I hope you feel better and you get the updates you need in a more caring way.
Post # 8
Mrslovebug: I feel you 🙁 I’m an only child, and I found out about my mother going in for emergency surgery via a mass email to the rest of the family from my father.
I was incredibly hurt at the time, but years later, realized that my dad was super tired and strung out from watching over her, and just wasn’t thinking rationally. It didn’t stop it from feeling super poopy at the time, though 🙁
Post # 9
Mrslovebug: Wow, I’m so sorry. I hope your dad is okay.
I had a simliar technology related family situation where my Great Grandmother died and I was told via text message, as was my mother who was at work. I was livid. Technology is not the way for family to find out news like that.
Post # 10
I am so sorry you are going through this. While technology gives us more ways to communicate, it also makes us forget/get lazy. The old phone trees break down. I still remember that there was one uncle we would always accidnetaly forget when stuff happened with my grandpa. Grief kind of makes people’s heads do funny things. I really hope that is what is happening in your case.