(Closed) Finding out on Facebook…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am so sorry.

I think death hits people all differently. Just because you weren’t best friends doesn’t mean that you don’t have a right to mourn her death. So I do not think your feelings are frivolous and don’t let anyone make you feel like that as well.

*hugs*

Post # 4
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3011 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

So sorry to hear.  -hugs-

Post # 6
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

So sorry hon. I totally agree with Tranquility, just because you weren’t best friends it doesn’t mean you don’t get to mourn the loss or that your feelings are invalid. This is someone you knew and it was totally unexpected. You have every right to be in shock and disbelief right now. ((hugs))

Post # 7
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Death definitely affects everyone differently. It’s really hard to know that someone you JUST talked to is now gone. Especially if they’re around the same age as you. It just makes you think about how short life is and all the things you take for granted sometimes…

Post # 8
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

So sorry to hear this.  ***HUGS***  The others have said everything I could say, so I’ll just ditto them and tell you I’m sorry.  I doubt you’ll come off sounding frivilous or anything like that.  You knew her, talked to her, and were a friend.  Maybe not super close, but you were still friends.

again, so so sorry to hear this.

Post # 10
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry for your loss. Your feelings are frivolous; everyone grieves differently. Don’t feel bad for feeling the way you do. ((hugs))

Post # 11
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6351 posts
Bee Keeper

@KatNYC2011: Your feelings of grief and shock can never be frivilous. I’m sure your condolences would be appreciated.

I’m sorry to hear about this sudden loss.

Post # 12
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3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You know, life is really funny. You go through day by day and you have no idea just how far the tentacles of your personality has reached. In this lady’s case hers has reached you probably unbeknownst to her.

Coming from someone who just went through an unexpected loss of a brother in law that was more like a brother than anything. It is comforting and humbling to know just how far his kindness reached others in his life. There were SO many people who came up to us during the funeral, the days, weeks and months after that just wanted to let us know how big of a impact he had made in their life.

So no. Your grief is NOT frivolous. If anything it might even be a comfort to her family.

I urge you to show (whether via FB, a comment on a online legacy guest book, a donation in her honor or just simply showing up at the viewing) them that she has touched your life.

I can vouch that it will mean a lot to them.

I’m very sorry that someone who made an impact on your life is no longer here.

And P.S. this is a perfect example of why FB IS a good thing. Although you were not close enough to be good buddies does not mean she did not have a impact on your life.

Post # 14
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@KatNYC2011: Of course your feelings are justified. I don’t know many people who can hear about a death and not be somewhat affected by it. And this is someone you spoke with every week. She may not have been your best friend, but it’s still going to affect you!

Post # 15
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@KatNYC2011: keep an eye on the newspapers’ obituaries in your area.  They typically mention who is handling the body (I know that sounds cold and crass, but it’s how it’s usually written… go figure).  You can then look  up the website of the funeral home and the information will be listed there.

I’ve had to do this several times and so far it’s worked every time.  

I’m not sure if that’s helpful or not.  I hope it is. 

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