(Closed) Finding out someone has cancer, don’t know how to help =(

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry you’re going through this and your ex too. 

It is hard to say what is appropritate to do since I’m not too familiar with your relationship with her or your ex and it seems like you haven’t seen them in a while.  

Do send a card to his mom, expressing your best wishes and offer your support if need be. Maybe flowers or some of her fave food items, if she’s eating.

Seems like they could most use money but you don’t want them to feel like charity cases either.

Post # 4
3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do they live nearby? I would bring some meals over that they can freeze (lasagna, casserole, etc). It lets them know you’re thinking of them without being sentimental, but it’s also practical.

Post # 5
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sorry to hear this, it’s always sad to hear of someone young with children being sick.


@redheadem: This!

I think bringing food that can be easily frozen and prepared is extreemly useful in this situations. When my grandfather was sick (he also had cancer), we were there a ton and it was so much easier to just toss something in the oven for 20 minutes than to have to cook/make ourselves when we could have been spending time with him.


If they don’t live nearby there are some wonderful food baskets online that could be sent as well (got one recently when my other grandfather passed).

Hope this helps.

Post # 6
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Your feelings are completely understandable and I agree with PPs. Make a gesture, but don’t get too involved. You don’t want to confuse your ex in any way, or potentially create conflict at home for yourself. Food would be the most valuable ankd welcome thing right now, I’m sure.

You’re in my thoughts.

Post # 7
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

In times of crisis, I think the meaning of reaching out to someone definitely transcends any amount of time that’s gone by after a breakup. I’d definitely bring over some nice homemade meals and let her know that you are thinking of her, and that you’ve always been happy she was a part of your life. I’m sorry this is happening.

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