(Closed) Finding out the sex of the baby?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Would you want to find out the sex of your baby before it's born?
    Yes!! definitely! : (82 votes)
    66 %
    Still Undecided! : (16 votes)
    13 %
    Not for the first one, but if I had others maybe : (9 votes)
    7 %
    Not at all, it should be a surprise! : (18 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’m not pregnant either but I don’t want to find out the sex either when the time comes. It’s the best surprise in my opinion!

    Post # 4
    1763 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    With my first I felt like I HAD to know. I was really young and couldn’t handle that unknown element. With my second I could have gone either way so i let it up to Fiance and he felt like he HAD to know. It was nice knowing so we could feel like we had everything ready to go (I’m not sure if you can ever really be completely ready!).

    We don’t think we will have any more, but if we did I wouldn’t want to find out. Just so one time I could have that suprise at the end.

    Post # 5
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I asked Fiance this the other night… his response? A slightly-scared “….. why?” hahaha. He then said YES he would definitely want to know.

    I think that I would not want to know… but I’d be unable to not. I am the least patient person ever and if I knew that the doctor knew… I couldn’t not ask. 

    Post # 6
    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I voted Yes, as I found out the gender of our little one on February 4th.

    This was huge for my hubby and I. We definitely wanted to know for our first child for many reasons. We had names picked out for both genders but we wanted this whole process to feel more intimate then calling our baby by a code name or Baby Roddy. Another reason was that it has been 50+ years since the Roddy family produced a girl so it was going to be an awesome experience to find out the gender. Sure enough, the girl kicked some male sperm butt :). The odds were against her but she made it through.

    The reasoning for finding out is different for everyone and my biggest concern are others who try to pressure you into the decision that they made for their own pregnancies. That is completely and utterly annoying.

    My POV is this, it doesn’t make the pregnancy or the baby less exciting because we found out the gender. All that matters is what you and the father believe is right for your family. Maybe one of our future children will be left unknown until birth but as of today we do not and will not regret our decision.

    Post # 7
    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’m way too impatient to wait. My older daughter was three weeks late, and I didn’t find out until after her due date that she was a girl and it really made me crazy. I think it’s so cool when people want to be surprised, but I am way too anxious!!

    Post # 8
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    not pregnant. however, my fi would like to wait… but in the end will do what i want. which is to know! i’m a planner, and there’s no way i can just wait for the baby to come without having it’s room ready. and i love pink (in an unhealthy way), so there will be no neutral colors if it’s a girl. there will be pink, and lots of it.

    Post # 9
    539 posts
    Busy bee

    My Fiance wants to know the gender when we start a family, however, I am undecided…not sure if I will want too. If we do find out, then we will keep the name a secret

    Post # 10
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    I agree with Roddy that no one should try to pressure others either way!

    We will find out.  Our reasons are that we feel we will be able to bond better with a she/he rather than an “it”, you can really focus all your baby name picking energy on one gender, and it is still a surprise no matter when you find out! In my mind, the day we have our baby will offer the biggest surprise ever in meeting our child for the first time – and at that point, whether that child is  a boy or girl won’t matter nearly as much as the intensity of meeting him/her for the first time ever!

    Post # 11
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t want all yellow and green things, so my answer would have to be yes. I am a huge planner and like to have everything all set beforehand so I think I would want to know when the time comes. My parents found out with me and they were told that I was supposed to be a boy LOL. So they had everything ready to bring home a new born boy decorations, clothes, etc. and then they got me. =)

    Post # 12
    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would like to know for planning purposes when the time comes, however MY issue will be BELIEVING THEM!!!! What if they were wrong? I know twin girls who were thought to be one boy! I know it’s not common but I’d worry.

    Post # 13
    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My Darling Husband and I both wanted to know as soon as possible!  This is our first, I have no idea if that has anything to do with it.  I’m a little bit OCD about planning, so I wanted to know just so that we could pick the color scheme of the nursery, all the accessories, and let all our friends and family know that it was a (girl!) so they could buy stuff too.  It was hard to register for gifts for gender neutral items, so many things are either blue or pink and there’s no in between.  That drove me nuts.  We had already picked a name for a boy or a girl by the time we found out, and it is nice to call her by her name.  My only fear was that the tech messed up.  My SIL found out at 8 months that her “girl” was a “boy!!”  Not cool when you’ve already had your shower!

    Side note: if you want to wait be prepared for EVERYONE telling you how inconvenient it is for THEM since they have to buy gender neutral items…not that it should affect your decision, but you’ll hear it ALL the time…

    Post # 14
    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    At first, I didn’t want to find out because I didn’t want to be stuck with a bunch of pink items if the baby was a girl. I really prefer gender neutral in general and leaving it a secret gives an excuse. I’ve seen very few items in stores that I actually like.

    However, we did find out (hopefully their guess is right), because I wanted to be able to bond with a girl or a boy, not just a baby. My husband and I aren’t people who like to use nicknames, and it got irritating to always say ‘the baby’. Besides, we’ve had names picked out way before I got pregnant, and I would have the opportunity to get used to using his/her name. It’s nice to be able to say ‘she’ instead.

    Post # 15
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My LGBT/gender studies self says that the biological sex doesn’t determine the gender of the baby, so what does it matter if I knew what that sex is before birth, when its still a fetus growing inside me? But the part of me which is OCD and would be an excited pregnant lady (would- as in, I am not now. Sometime In the Future!) would like to know. I suspect Fiance would like to know. It’d also fuel our name debate quite a bit to know. I suspect I’ll end up ignoring everything I’ve learned and desire to know the biological sex ASAP.

    Post # 16
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I don’t want to know.  I am afraid if I know I will become too attached and I am scared of a miscarage. 

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