(Closed) Finding out through grapevine that family is threatening NOT to attend

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
11226 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013


a) Your witnesses are usually the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man, whoever those end up being.

b) Obviously he didn’t want you to decide anything if he’s being a giant dick. Is he always like this?

Post # 4
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@blinx:  I’m sorry you are going through this and that your family is acting in such an immature manner. 

I don’t have much advice for you…but I think you should stop consulting your Father on the wedding, though and asking if he is okay with things. I think that may be giving him permission to start drama. As the saying goes, it is better to ask for forgiveness than permission!

As for the seating issue right now – if you think it is going to cause a big problem, why don’t you seat your brothers at a separate table from both your Mom and Dad? Are they old enough to sit alone, or would they need adult supervision?

Good luck!

Post # 5
3694 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Your dad should sit with your brothers.  And all the other children – at the kiddy table.  What a child.


Don’t tell him anything else, just tell him you have it taken care of and let him throw a hissy fit in front of everyone else when he goes to pick up his escort card. 

Post # 6
2898 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Disgusting and very selfish attitude 🙁

Post # 7
3072 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What a douche.  Stop talking to him about wedding stuff.  If your cousins choose to be immature and not show because your brother are sitting with their mother, then that’s on them.  They will be the ones to miss out on your amazing day.  Think of it this way-if they don’t show, it’s that much less drama that you have to deal with!

Post # 11
9260 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@blinx:  The maid of honor and best man are supposed to be the witnesses. I’ve never in my life heard that the fathers do. 

My advice is stop asking for his opinion or blessing, and accept that he’s going to complain.

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