(Closed) Finding some peace…without any answers

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I love that you two have reconnected. Sometimes the difference of opinions we have as waiting girls with our partners (as in we want to get married now and they want to wait for whatever the reason) can drive a wedge between us.

I know sometimes if I am feeling frustrated by the lack of change in our situation that I feel quite angry and just want to sulk.

I think it is really important to remember that just because I’m not planning a wedding to the man I love right now, It doesnt mean that he doesn’t love me. We are just doing the sensible thing in trying to afford a wedding.

Whenever I get the sulks I always try to bring it back to how much I love him and am looking forward to the rest of our lives together

Post # 4
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935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Oh it’s so good that you reconnected! I spent quite some time here on the waiting boards and the cycles I went through were some of the most frustrating of my life….feeling like you’ve found “your person” and they either haven’t taken the action or are not sure about you can be the WORST FEELING. It can totally eclipse all the positive stuff in your relationship.  We ended up breaking up (so take my advice with a grain of salt, I’m no expert) but one thing I definitely learned was that it’s crucial for you to get your needs met and feel connected to your partner. I had some time when I felt distant from him becuase either my own self-care was inadequate, or I was not asking for what I wanted and needed from the relationship in terms of our connection with one another.

 

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