- 8 years ago
First of all, I want to thank you for this fabulous community which I only discovered a few weeks ago but is already my lifeline.
I have been going through some serious waiting cycles recently where I’ve been pretty obsessive and downright annoying, I think. After talking to my sister last night, she mentioned something that struck a chord. I told her that Mr.Owl and I were having trouble talking about our future/wedding/timeline and I was lamenting how much that hurt me. She said that it sounded like it wasn’t so much that I was mad that we weren’t on the same page, just sad that we weren’t connecting.
Eureka! It was the perfect thing to say to Mr.Owl. I told him over dinner last night that when we fight/argue, or more likely, don’t talk about our future, I feel disconnected. I hate feeling separated from him.
He really responded to this! We didn’t talk about our wedding/timeline/future at all last night but we did finally reconnect by cuddling on the couch and watching TV and talking to each other all evening. We went on a run together and made dinner together and just relaxed. It was very similar to our normal nights but it was a little different because we were trying to connect.
I think this is the breakthrough we needed to start talking more freely as a couple. I like to think we communicate well, but sometimes you just hit a wall. I hope that those of you who are struggling like I was can find some peace, even if you don’t get any questions answered.
Comments and thoughts appreciated! If you have had a similar experience, I’d love to hear about it.