Finding the One in your late 20s/early 30s

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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14 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2018

This is exactly the topic that I could’ve asked even just 14 months ago.  I am 32 now and was previously engaged (broken engagement), and had been really worried about starting over again.  I spent a few years with a few relationships but nothing with long term potential, and was tempted to settle as panicking…however one of my friends who is older urged me to wait, saying that she knew so many people from her mother’s group who got married and had kids in their mid 30s and that when I met the right person it could all happen so quickly.  And it actually has…in May I will be (at 33) marrying someone who is so much more right for me than I could’ve imagined, or probably recognised earlier.  He provides so much support and is a genuinely good person.  And it all will have happened within 18 months, just as my friend predicted.  So, so much hope there, from not just me, but so many others I have come to know.  I hope you can find ease of mind in the meantime, and when you are ready, the love that will make you happy forever 🙂

Post # 32
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1055 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I dated someone from 23-26. Then we were on/off for a bit. I met my fiance at 27, and am in my mid 30s now. There is still so much of life to live still. Sure I had it in my head that I wanted to be married by 30. But that’s not how life worked out and it’s ok.

After a breakup, it’s hard to find the positive, but you’ll get there. 

Post # 33
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335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I was in a pretty terrible relationship for about 2 years and decided to leave once it really sank in that he would never act or commit in the way I wanted him to because he just wasn’t that person.  We had moved to a completely new state together 6 months prior so I was in a really tough spot financially and socially for a little while.  But now I look back on that time in my life kind of fondly because I grew soooo much during those months.  It was really hard and sloppy and sad but when you feel like you’re at rock bottom it’s almost liberating because you can live without so much concern..you’ve already lost everything right?  The worst has happened and you’re still alive so might as well carry on.  I partied a lot and made a few more poor choices but I gained a lot of clarity about myself and the world.

I stuck it out on my own in that state for 6 months then moved back home to live with my parents.  That’s when the rebirth happened.  I buckled down, got my shit together, focused on me and the blessings inevitabley followed.  I explored new career opportunities and cut all my hair off and hit the gym like it was my job.  I fell in love with myself again and began attracting more love into my life.  I met my current partner about 1 year after moving home, at 26, and we are getting married now 2 years later.

It’s not even close to the end for you, OP.  Focus on what really matters and everything just lines up.

Post # 34
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132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I have two roommates who both found their husbands after age 30, and got engaged and married in 2 years, and pregnant the year after. By the time their first child was born, one was 34 and the other 35. Dating later on with more intentionality just weeds out people who aren’t serious!

Post # 35
Hostess
8491 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

acw124 :  Long story short. Ended things with my ex at 29 because he kept saying he wanted marriage but clearly didn’t. Dated straight away, thought I had found someone who wanted the same as me turns out he was a crazy. Broke my heart. Then was single for 2 years, did online dating. Met my now Fiance at 31. Dated for 16 months. Got engaged. Wedding is in March 2019 and I will be getting married 2 days before by 34th birthday. 

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