- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I think buying a wedding dress is one of the loneliest thing to do! I don’t know if anyone feels the same but i really do. I walk into a bridal store with my friends. I feel pressured by them and by the consultant to like something. And as most brides /brides-to-be have pointed out, sometimes you just don’t know what you want. Or, the styles that you think will work really don’t.
I started out thinking that i would like a dress that has tulle, organza or chiffon. Something light, airy looking with an ethereal feel to it. And i have tried on quite some of those dresses. I am blessed with a pretty petite figure so most dresses look fine on me. That makes it even harder to decide. And then i ordered a dress that i really don’t like now. I even look at the dress on the model online, and i think she doesn’t even look that good! So, with me in it… urgh.. well…
Here is the start of another round of dress search. And since i already have a dress, i feel guilty when I dress shop. I spend almost all my free time online searching for used or cheaper dresses because i can’t afford to spend that much on another dress. Here is when the loneliness starts — when i do go to a bridal store to try on dresses now, I go alone. That takes some pressure off having to like a dress i have tried. My husband (we are legally married, but we still want to have a wedding) does not want to look at any dresses because he thinks its bad luck if he sees me in my dress. “through thick and thin” well, not when its comes to wedding gowns.
Recently, i showed a photo of me in a dress i tried at the store. I really like this dress (essense of australia). its taffetta, with ruched bodice, sort of a fit-and-flare silhouette with asymetrical pickups. Under each of these pickups are flowers… its pretty. The ruched bodice makes me look like i have some shape rather than stick thin. The pick ups, something i never thought i will like, gives the dress an added oomph! without overwhelming or making me look like a wedding cake! the dress made me want to jump around the dressing room. Isn’t that a sign that its the right one?? So anyway, i showed one of my bridesmaid the photo and she goes… “its too poofy”. Her style is something that is more simple so “poof” is definitely not a favorite of hers. argh!
Anyway, i am hesitant to buy that dress because its too expensive anyway. After alterations and including tax (it sucks in CA), its going to be pricey. For someone who has a toddler, i start to think of how the money for the dress can be put to better use for my kid. So, i start to feel bad all over and think that hey, my first dress could work…
Then, theres that little nagging thought “its the ONE dress” and since, like most people who get married, I don’t have plans to marry again, i want it to be a dress that makes me feel awesome….
I am tired of this dress search. Anyone of you feel the same too?
And a last note, i hate it that there are no sample dresses in my size. it totally make sense why it is not, i am just resentful. Sample sales will never work for me.
Sorry, long post. just had to rant